Former customer an unwelcome visitor

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This article was published 05/03/2016 (3865 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: A long time ago I was young and so desperate to feed my kids, I had to sell my body. I had a few regulars, was never on the streets and didn’t have a pimp, either. I was pretty lucky, and when I was able to get a straight job, I did.

It’s been many years since those bad old days, and my kids are all grown-up — then along comes this nice guy I used to see as a customer. He came by and knocked on my door — I still live in the same house — and he asked if he could just talk to me. He said he had always been secretly in love with me and asked me if I would consider seeing him as a real boyfriend.

I was so stunned I told him I would have to think about it. I haven’t gotten back to him. I want to be left alone. He left his email. Should I write him, and if so, what should I say?

— Can’t Go Back, Winnipeg

Dear Can’t Go Back: Contact him once via his email and tell him that was a part of your former life you have put behind you, and you don’t want to be reminded of it. Thank him for his respect and caring, but that you need to live your life with no ties to the past and difficult times. If he cares as he says he does, he will understand that.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have hockey rink problems —one big rink rat. This married father of a boy on my son’s team keeps coming over to shmooze and bug me for a date. “Oh come on, just a few drinks. What would that hurt?” was his last charming invitation. The guy’s wife is a piece of work, but he says he’s still married “for the kids sake.” What a prince.

I’m not married, and I don’t want married jerks hanging onto me as if I’m frustrated and “need it.” He has said to me, “You must get lonely.” I know what that means. I told him I had a boyfriend and he called me a liar. “Your kid says you don’t!” How do I get rid of this sleazebag?

— Disgusted By Hockey Dad, Winnipeg

Dear Disgusted: The next time he comes sidling over, before he even gets his mouth open to say anything, tell him: “I don’t want you near me. If you come over to talk to me again, I will call your wife and tell her everything you’ve said to me. Now go!”

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