No one got pinned during wrestling match

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I got into a wrestling match with my boyfriend and I scratched him down the side of his face. He didn’t go to classes the whole week. He didn’t answer any of my texts. I thought I’d be sneaky and call his house on the land-line at suppertime. His mom answered and called him to the phone. I apologized over and over for what happened and he said, “Leave me alone, for good. I can’t even go to school. I have your claw marks down my face.”

I know he’s really mad, but I love him. I have been crying and crying. What can I do? I can’t make the marks go away like magic.

— Miserable, Winnipeg

Dear Miserable: Hands are for loving, not for scratching, punching or hitting unless you get attacked for real. Some things you just can’t get away with in a romantic relationship, and this is one of them. You apologized and that’s all you can do, unless he comes back on his own. There’s pride involved because you marked him in a violent way. He may even have some scarring.

So don’t get involved in play fighting with anyone, as it can turn to angry fighting. You’re a big girl now, with long nails. It isn’t appropriate in a romantic relationship for you to be wrestling, an activity which is markedly different from lovemaking. Is that what you were hoping it would turn into? The next time you have a boyfriend, use a different approach.

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Miss Lonelyhearts
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