Wildcat bored by ‘sweet guy’

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My partner is a true Virgo and he thinks I’m a pain in the butt. He is gentle, practical, money-minded, careful, with a sweet personality and thoughtful in bed. I’m a strong, fiery-impulsive, bossy Aries and wild in bed. My impulse would be more like, “set the bedroom on fire and see what happens!”

My former partner was an Aries like me and we had some wild times, but fought like wildcats. What do you think? Should I stay with this sweet guy in 2019? There’s no trouble between us, except he makes me fall asleep sometimes when we’re just starting to make love with his gentle touches and soft voice.

— Fiery Aries Woman, East Kildonan

Dear Aries Woman: If you have to ask that question, then your foot is already halfway out the door and you might as well keep going. Your sweet, gentle man may be entertained by your fire, but you can’t always stay awake with his caresses. This is not harmony — it is disharmony and boredom.

You need someone you can have adventures with, someone who loves you passionately and has your back, as you have his. If you are not a grown-up Aries (past your mid-20s), you may still need someone to add common sense to the mix, so you don’t run off the road or end up in jail. You simply do not need this quiet fellow, no matter what his age. It doesn’t matter what sign he is, either. Just tune into a man’s personality, style and sexuality.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My wife suggested that good advice for Ham in the Sandwich, the woman who’s been invited to separate holiday parties by feuding siblings, is to tell her sisters she will not see either one until they have settled their quarrel. That would leave “Ham” to do what she wants with her own family. I thought that this was good advice, too.

— Smart Wife’s Husband, Winnipeg

Dear Husband: Why should she cut off her two sisters until they smarten up? Dangerous move! They may not settle the feud for years, if at all.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is a response to Ham in the Sandwich. What’s so terrible about simply saying: “We like you both and don’t want to hurt either of you by choosing to be with the other, so we’ll do something on our own instead.” That way, they haven’t lied, everybody has a chance to look at the hurt the arguing is causing, and they are still free to go out and do what they want.

— Real Problem with Lies, Manitoba

Dear Real Problem: It’s a decent solution, but it also comes across as acting parental. “We can’t make it” is less offensive than, “We won’t come because of the way you two are fighting.” With this move, Ham will have rejected the offers from both siblings, who may take offence towards her. Then, where will she be when the next family get-together rolls around? On the high road all by herself.

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