Magnetic attraction no reason to get hitched in a hurry

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: You can probably hear my heart thumping from there as I write you because last week, I met a guy who just flipped me inside out. I couldn’t stop staring and he couldn’t stop looking at me. We walked toward each other and touched hands. It was like a magnet pulling us both. I don’t believe in past-life nonsense and neither does he. Nevertheless, I just took his arm and we walked by the water at The Forks. It just seemed right.

We’d both like to know what’s happening, but I can tell you right now, we will get married one day, and it won’t be long from now. It feels like we finally found each other and there’s no reason to wait to be together. What just happened to us? Is there anything wrong with following our feelings and getting married right away?

— Touched By Magic, Downtown

Dear Touched: There’s no real pressure to get married “right away” to get intimate. Give yourselves six months to get to know each other. You may have met a soulmate, but you may also have met your double. Do you agree on everything and even look a bit alike? That can fool you into thinking it’s the Big L.

Look, you need to be banging on all cylinders to get married and stay married. That means you need to be friends, lovers and two unique people who can have productive arguments, with solutions. You should have some similar interests and like-minded views on having children — or not. It’s also good to have met each other’s families (the possible in-laws) and find out if there’s any hidden addictions or untreated mental illness. If everything checks out and your chances are good for a long-term match, then go for it. Good luck!

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: A guy at the beach was staring over at my girlfriend in her bikini. I didn’t care because everybody looks at my girlfriend. She’s so hot! Anyway, we packed up to go to the car and he started following us at a distance.

Then, he came up to us at the car as we were loading our gear into the trunk and he said to her: “I know it’s hard to see past my beard and hair, but it’s me, from high school.” She just looked at him blankly. Then, he smiled and she said, “Oh, I know you. You really creeped me out back in high school and you’re creeping me out now. Go away.” A tear ran down this guy’s cheek. He looked at her and said his full name to make sure she really knew who he was. She just turned her back.

He walked away, head down. I’ve been feeling my respect for her decreasing. Why was she so cold and rude?

— Sorry She Hurt Him, Winnipeg

Dear Sorry: No wonder you’re feeling less kindly toward her. As a guy, you may know how humiliating it is when you gather up the guts to speak to a girl and get shot down like that. He wasn’t following you two in a creepy way. He’d gathered up his courage to say hello.

It wouldn’t hurt your girlfriend to have said something polite, like: “Oh, yes… Grade 8. Our teacher was (Miss so-and-so). I remember you now. I hope you’re doing OK. What are you up to these days?” And then, “Thanks for saying hi.” Think twice about continuing with her when she has it inside her to be so mean. Imagine how you’d feel if she turned that cold blast on you one day.

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Miss Lonelyhearts
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