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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I got married to my wife a long time ago on Valentine's Day. To this day she has never given me anything on that special anniversary. I'm supposed to buy her a special gift and card and flowers every year, and she just receives the gifts and gives me a peck on the cheek. We don't even have sex on Valentine's Day anymore; in fact, we never have sex at all. We don't have any kids because she doesn't want the bother. She doesn't want to sleep with me because I snore and she won't use earplugs.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I got married to my wife a long time ago on Valentine’s Day. To this day she has never given me anything on that special anniversary. I’m supposed to buy her a special gift and card and flowers every year, and she just receives the gifts and gives me a peck on the cheek. We don’t even have sex on Valentine’s Day anymore; in fact, we never have sex at all. We don’t have any kids because she doesn’t want the bother. She doesn’t want to sleep with me because I snore and she won’t use earplugs.

Am I expecting too much — a warm marriage? I gave up having kids for her and it’s not too late for me to be a father. We are both 38. You know what I really feel like giving her, since she’s so cold to me? Separation papers! Should I? — Totally Fed Up & Out of Love, Winnipeg

 

Dear Totally Fed Up: Separation papers are a nasty Valentine’s “gift,” but how about you introduce the state-of-the-marriage talk today, starting with her lack of Valentine’s gifts for you; her feelings about the lack of lovemaking; the fact you still want children and she doesn’t; the total lack of sex and sleeping together; and finally, what marriage means to both of you, and if you’d like to end it.

You’re not much more than roommates now, and you still want babies. Maybe it’s time you both moved on. It sounds like your wife might like to end it, too. There is no good time to discuss a cold relationship and possible separation, so see a domestic lawyer ASAP and find out what you need to know about the legalities involved in splitting up, and then talk to her.

At this point, you could still find a family-loving woman and your wife could find a no-kids guy who wants to participate in other adventures. Why try to save this marriage just because it’s a marriage? There needs to be more compatibility than you two have in order to fight for it.

 

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