Ex-boyfriend still getting under her skin

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This article was published 18/03/2016 (3531 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I had a shocking experience when I was just trying to be nice. This guy’s little car seemed to be stuck in my back lane. I’m a strong woman, so I went to his rescue. The car came out suspiciously easy, and then the driver quickly got got out to thank me and grabbed me in a big bear hug. I knew that hug! I drew back, he let me go, and I saw it was my old boyfriend. “I saw it was you, so I pretended to be stuck. Ha ha! You’re still easy to fool, baby,” he said.

I jumped in my car and took off. A few blocks away I was so mad I cried. That guy always knew every move in the book for tricking me and everyone around him. I never thought he would be the type to betray me when I first started seeing him — he seemed like Mr. Nice Guy — but he stole small amounts of money from my bedroom drawers, dated another woman behind my back and had sexual things going with other women at the bar. One of my guy friends took pity and finally reported back.

I didn’t recognize him initially when he got out of the car, because it was a new car. He was wearing sunglasses, black clothes, boots that made him look tall, a tuque and he has a beard now. I hate this guy, and I especially hate it that he got his hands on me again. What can I do to get him back?

— Unwilling Sucker, Winnipeg

Dear Unwilling Sucker: You know that saying, “Don’t let anyone live rent free in your head”? You can get him back by flicking him off like a bug. Don’t spend another minute thinking about the incident or telling your friends or wondering how you can get him back. It was his way of saying “nana-nana boo-boo” to you. What a child.

As for his hanging around in your back lane, that’s more serious. If you should ever catch this jerk there again, coupled with this fake move to get his hands on you recently, you may have grounds for a stalking charge. If he lives there now, or is dating someone in the area, just avoid him the best you can (now you know what his car looks like).

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