Some men can’t handle her breast tattoos

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have tattoos on my breasts, which I really like. My ex-boyfriend liked them too, but I have slept with two men since my relationship ended and they were surprised, and one of them not in a positive way. My tattoos don’t contain hearts with initials, or anything gross like that, they are pictures from nature.

How could this be a problem for any man? I thought it added to my mystique. Now I’m starting to feel self-conscious. Help!

— Tattoo Problem, Wolseley 

Dear Tattoo Problem: There’s a big difference between, “Eww, what’s that?”,“Wow, that’s beautiful!” and an awkward silence when a couple are making out, and a tattoo suddenly comes into view. You shouldn’t have to feel apologetic about your body decor, so find a guy who has some himself, or just likes them, and talk about them before he gets to see them.

Many guys have tattoos now, and a man with some of his own would be a great choice for you. There are people who love them and find them intriguing, and others who actually feel repulsed. You don’t need any more of the latter response.

I gather your tattoos are hidden from public view. If you don’t jump into bed too early with a partner, you get a chance to talk about everything and find out what people’s feelings are about many personal things.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: A very good friend of mine is going through a divorce after 40 years of marriage because friends of his wife insist that he’s been cheating. He says he hasn’t, but she won’t believe him. She gave him a list of 24 women that he supposedly slept with, and he insists he hasn’t slept with any of them.

I actually contacted five of them and they all said they had never slept with him, and that the accusations are false. Why would her so-called friends try to talk her into a divorce with lies?

On the other hand, I have heard that some of her friends are lesbians and that maybe she is changing sides. I have no proof, but am wondering if I should mention it to him so he can throw this info back at her when she accuses him of cheating.

These people have been married so long and their true friends and family members are devastated. He does not want a divorce and is terrified about having to sell their house. What can I do to help? I read that the rate of divorce for the over-60 crowd is the fastest growing among all divorces.

Why is this happening?

— Don’t Get It, Winnipeg

Dear Don’t Get It: People get fed up over the years and have financial options to leave. People who married young often married for reasons that didn’t keep them happy in the long term — reasons such as an unplanned pregnancy, good looks or because all their friends were all getting married at the same time.

They may have turned out to have different values, different interests, alcohol or drug addiction (sometimes prescription) and different attitudes to money. Maybe one person dominated the household, maybe one wanted to travel and the other didn’t. Multiply these annoyances by 30-plus years and people say, “I have enough money to live. I want out of this dead relationship before I get too old to do any of the things I want.”

That could include following a hidden sexual preference.

In your case, it’s interesting that you are so intimately involved. You’ve been calling people up to ask if they’ve ever cheated with your friend. Why in the world would they ever talk to you, and why would they admit to cheating, if they had?

Get your nose out of this. If this woman wants to leave your buddy for any reasons, she is free to do so. Clearly, she wants out.

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