Son making moves on dad’s younger girlfriend

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This article was published 26/08/2017 (3323 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have a girlfriend who’s younger than me by 11 years, and I introduced her to my 20-year-old son this summer at the cabin. My other son is 16 and just likes fishing. The 20-year-old is always finding excuses to be with my lady, challenging her to dive for things off the dock (she wears a bikini), asking her to play Scrabble with him, then rounds of rummy and singing while he plays guitar for them.

It’s enough already. I know he has a crush on her, and I have turned out to be jealous of my own son. I am in my early 40s and he is a body builder and football player, with a nice tan. I feel like Father Time when I’m around them. What do you think I should do?— His Old Man, Southdale

Dear His Old Man: This has the makings of a big disaster. How about breaking it off with the young woman? She’s co-operating in this growing problem with your son and is clearly not respecting you.

Boundaries are being crossed already (they are openly flirting), which is why you’re feeling so lousy watching it.

Save your relationship with your son and don’t bring any more hot ladies home who may be 30, but look delicious and young enough for him — especially not in bikini weather. 

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I was introduced to a good-looking, charming man with a bit of a reputation in town. I was feeling bored this summer after a breakup, so decided to go out for dinner with him, for a laugh. I expected him to be a leering jackass, but he was nothing of the sort. He was a gentleman — kind, respectful, intelligent and a great kisser, though a bit of a sex tease. (He wouldn’t have intercourse.)

He told me I wasn’t the usual kind of woman he went out with, but he was making an exception because I was special in some way he couldn’t put his finger on. I wanted to know what I was lacking and what was making up for it that was special. I became obsessed!

I was out golfing the other day and had a bite to eat with my friend at a restaurant, my new guy’s favourite spot. While my friend went to the bathroom, I was eavesdropping on the next table.

I overheard this woman, about my age, describe her new man to her girlfriend. She was puzzling over this thing he had said to her. It turned out to be exactly the same thing my new guy had said to me, word for word! When she got up to go, I took a secret photo of her with my phone.

He called me this evening and I couldn’t wait to go out with him. I suggested the same place where I had overheard the conversation, and he seemed a bit uneasy. When we got there, I was in a rare mood. I had something light, since I wasn’t planning to stay long. He told me I looked especially buoyant.

I said I was and wanted to play a game called guess who made this remark, and he looked at me kind of funny. Then I quoted the same line he used with that other woman and me.

As he sat there stunned, I pulled out my camera and photo of the other woman, and said, “She doesn’t know what to make of that line either.”

Then the gentlemanly veil came off. He called me “an insecure, sneaky, little bitch!” and walked out, leaving me with the bill.

I just wanted to pass that line along to any other Winnipeg women who might run into this “charming” guy. Why is that line so effective? — Just Wondering, Winnipeg

Dear Just Wondering: Rather than give you a feeling of security, this guy issues a challenge off the top. You’re not told what the challenge is, except you’re lacking in some way, and must make up for it if you are to win his heart, when so many others have not. That way he doesn’t look like he needs any woman, and his dates will work harder to impress him.

He likes to make women feel they’re lucky to even be in his company, and his body and heart are used as bait. But he had gotten lazy and started using the same old line.

You can bet he’ll be working on a new line to replace it now. There is no point in being genuine and letting a woman get close.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My husband and I are in our mid-20s and need some new friends. We are in a fairly new development and we have ended up in a couples-with-young-kids crowd.

Our parents helped us with a mortgage and we feel kind of beholden to them, although neither of us really wanted to live here. Our parents chose the place, more or less.

We want to go back to Osborne Village, where we’ve always lived since we left home. We don’t want kids for the next five years at least — maybe never — and we miss the uptown feel of an apartment there.

We hate it here in the burbs! We just don’t know how to tell our parents, so what do you suggest?— Ungrateful Kids, Winnipeg Suburb

Dear Ungrateful Kids: There’s nothing left to do except tell your two sets of parents you’re selling the house in the suburbs and giving them back the money they gave you for the mortgage, although you are going to have to eat some expenses yourselves in terms of closing costs.

You must act like adults now. You’ll have to stand up to some hassles going through this and perhaps the accusations you fear of being ungrateful. But hold your ground. Do what makes you happy as a couple and only apologize to each other for not being stronger sooner.

Assure the parents they’ll get all their money back. Suggest the folks go on a big cruise together with the mortgage moolah.

 

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