Give unlikely love a second chance, reader believes

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I read your articles almost daily, and mostly agree with your advice. But, I disagree in this case of the young man who wants his honey back. The girl wouldn’t introduce him to her parents, so he broke up with her. You said he should look for someone new. I think that any guy who has been let down by a woman and has broken up with her deserves a second chance, especially if that woman told him that she loved him. There are many examples in poems and songs of hopeless lovers that make it happen. Think of Romeo and Juliet or Uptown Girl by Billy Joel or even Hey Jude by the Beatles. “You found her, now go and get her.”

Don’t ever give up on love! So, my advice to the young man is the opposite: go and get her love! She deserves another chance. These two could miss out on the best thing that could ever happen to them — finding true and real love while still young. Go for it, my friend.

— A.T., Winnipeg

Dear Go For It: It’s hard for a young woman to stand up to her parents and defend a guy she knows they won’t like and may tell her he’s “not good enough.” When a guy falls in love with such a woman it hurts badly to be thought of as second-class. Some young couples have run off and gotten married and stayed away to get away from the disapproval, but it’s hard for the woman to lose her mom and dad. Grandchildren often bring the grandparents back, but there can be some cold, heartbreaking years before then.

This fellow needs to ask her to tell him the hard truth — what exactly her parents wouldn’t like about him, and then decide if he wants to change himself to please them.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: All summer my girl and I have been making love outdoors, until she got stung by a wasp in a very sensitive place and now she won’t do it anymore. It used to be our special thing. There are still many warm afternoons when it would be great to play outside in the sunshine —especially with blankets over and under — but she won’t hear of it. Help!

— Missing Sexy Outdoor Fun, Selkirk

Dear Missing: Although October is pushing it, weatherwise, the good news is the night frost kills off the wasps and then your only worry is keeping warm. Explain the wasp life cycle to your lady friend and she may be willing to hazard some zip-up sleeping-bag action, before the snow flies. Some like the joys of sex in winter camping tents. How about looking into that?

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m so mad I could just spit. My wife keeps going off on me and driving me crazy. She’s at me for having a few beers at night after a long day. She’s on me for not raking the damn leaves. Why should that be my job, just because I’m a man? I’m also mad at her for not doing my washing when she does hers and the kids’. She’s mad at me for talking to old girlfriends on the phone. Now they are just friends and we just get caught up on mutual friends. I’m mad at her for going to see her hot-looking dentist who used to be her “friend” in high school. Ha! There’s always something, which brings me to my main point — almost no sex, which makes me right owly.

— Feeling Un-Loved, Downtown

Dear Unloved: It’s all about personal pride and the division of labour, isn’t it? The underlying problem? I’m betting she resents your going off to work and leaving her to do all the unglamorous housework and child care. Maybe she needs to get a part-time job to reset the balance of power and pride in the household. Even if the money isn’t great she will feel much better and sexier when she goes out to work.

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