Sexual weekend bears repeating — and enhancing

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This article was published 19/06/2019 (2631 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Last weekend, I went on a first date that unexpectedly became a weekend sleepover. The chemistry was insane and physical attraction so strong we couldn’t keep off each other and staggered home.

I have quickly developed feelings for this hot, older guy, and am curious if this weekend of lust has potential for something more serious and long-term.

We have been texting casually since, but I’m trying to not seem overzealous. What’s the right approach to try to transition this hot and heavy weekend into a relationship?

— Wanting More, Manitoba

Dear Wanting: You already know you’re compatible as sex bunnies, so try to build on that with other types of experiences. Make a date to do something in the outside world and see if friendship, laughter and romance exist outside the bedroom.

Look for entertainment such as music, sports or a festival, to balance the wonderful all-weekend sex-fest. Also, try to get off the casual texting and into phone conversation, as texting is dry and passionless, whereas phone voices are nuanced, fun and sexy.

Then quickly suggest a second date, even if he doesn’t. You know you’d like to and this is 2019.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My mom has a new boyfriend and it makes me sick to my stomach the way he’s touching her.

He’s always putting his arm around her and the other day when she was pulling something out of the oven and had both hands full, I saw him put his hands on her bum. Disgusting!

Should I tell my mom how yucky I feel about what’s going on? Can’t he be a “gentleman” under our roof? Only my mom and I live here. My dad is no longer around.

— Disgusted Son, Winnipeg East

Dear Disgusted: Tell your mom what you saw and how you felt. Don’t suggest what she needs to do. She will know, and be embarrassed, so keep the conversation short. You don’t need to get into other areas and make it worse.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I want to comment on your reply to the dog owner who took her dog to the zoo and was lectured by the elderly woman for being an irresponsible pet owner, letting him poop in the flower bed.

You should have reminded her the dog should have been on leash, as the zoo is a public area, and if so, she would have known where the poo was so it could be picked up and disposed of properly (no matter the size of the dog or its poop).

I think she was irresponsible and entitled. Maybe the other person should not have intruded (to bawl her out), but I think I probably would have, in her shoes. Think of the gardeners who have to work in that soil.

— M.G., Gimli

Dear M.G. This was a tiny dog that came to the park in a bike carrier. Yes the doggie should have been on a leash, but the problem that upset the elderly lady was the tiny dog poop. The dog owner looked and couldn’t find it because it was so small. She asked the angry lady if she’d like to take a second look for it, and she’d gladly pick it up. I think this was a small dog, a very small poop, and yes, it was an infringement of the rules.

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