Pretty woman walks down lonely, bitter street

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m 38 and I met a pretty woman on the weekend. We went out for coffee after the party we were attending. She said a few half-funny things, and then she said she “gave up on love years ago.”

Such a beautiful woman to be saying such a sad thing. I asked her why, and she said, “Too much trouble — men aren’t who they say they are, and men always cheat anyway.”

What the heck does that mean?

I’m a nice, trustworthy guy, always have been. I’m big, but not hard to look at, since I started at the gym.

She was so beautiful and all these bitter words kept dripping from her lips. I said goodbye and went home sad and a bit depressed.

I wrote a little poem about her lips, as I’m a writer myself.

I had been so excited to go out for coffee with her, and then the words she said, and the way her mouth twisted, took the beauty away.

Why did she agree to go for coffee with me if she doesn’t believe in men and caring and maybe love? Do you think I should try to break through her bitterness?

I feel kind of bad for her.

— Feeling Sorry For Her, Winnipeg

Dear Feeling Sorry: Some people date randomly for something to do, because they’re bored and lonely, and just don’t want to go home and face the four walls alone. They don’t believe in love, nor the pursuit of it, but they like human company once in a while.

It’s not up to you to try to rescue this woman. She needs a psychologist or psychiatrist to help her break through the anger and distrust, and possibly learn how to identify a better type of man (like you) and give a good one a try.

Perhaps she comes from an abusive background and has inherited bad taste in men, except for you. Unfortunately, this attractive woman turns people off with her bitterness, even people who might be a kind, platonic male friend, which is what she seems to want.

But this is not your problem! You need to look for someone who’s emotionally healthy for a love relationship that’s good for you and lasts and, if you want, would help create a good home for a family and kids.

Don’t waste your time making any woman your rescue project when you’re in your 30s and may be looking for a wonderful, lasting love.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is quite creepy, but I know who did it. I recently broke up with a man who still has one of my keys. I kept bugging him to give it back to me.

Last night, I came home and discovered he had been in my house, used the toilet big-time and didn’t flush it. I know he did it on purpose to freak me out, because he once told me about a buddy of his who did that to an ex, and he thought it was a good trick.

I’m totally weirded out! What should I do about this?

— Nervous and Disgusted, Downtown

Dear Nervous: First, stop freaking out long enough to call a security company and change your locks immediately — like today.

Secondly, read up on break-and-enter laws in Canada. Armed with this knowledge, ask a lawyer to write a stiffly worded letter to this ex-boyfriend about the consequences of break-and-enter should you decide to press charges.

I doubt that ex will bother you again. It he does, tell him the next time you see him, it will be in a courtroom.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Miss Lonelyhearts
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