Windfall eases angst over later-life partnership

Advertisement

Advertise with us

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m retired and in my late 60s with three casual girlfriends — no sex — though I am healthy and up for it. It was their idea, and I’m OK with that. I get it! No smart woman wants to get physically close and married to a man my age, thinking they may soon have to look after him in his dotage.

Read this article for free:


or

Already have an account? Log in here »

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Subscribe and receive a limited-edition Free Press branded hat or tote.

Digital Subscription

One year of digital access for only $205*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles

*First annual payment billed as $205.00 + GST for one year. This annual subscription will automatically renew at $233.00 + GST every 52 weeks (10% off the regular annual price of $259.35). Offer available to new and qualified returning subscribers only. Cancel any time.

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Add Free Press access to your Brandon Sun subscription for only an additional

$1 for the first 4 weeks*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles
Start now

*Your next Brandon Sun subscription payment will increase by $1.00 and you will be charged $17.95 plus GST for four weeks. After four weeks, your payment will increase to $24.95 plus GST every four weeks.

Opinion

Hey there, time traveller!
This article was published 19/09/2023 (1054 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m retired and in my late 60s with three casual girlfriends — no sex — though I am healthy and up for it. It was their idea, and I’m OK with that. I get it! No smart woman wants to get physically close and married to a man my age, thinking they may soon have to look after him in his dotage.

Whenever any of my lady friends complain they’re not the only woman in my life, I explain why. They don’t argue the situation. They need to watch out for themselves; two of them are already widows, and one divorced.

Recently, everything changed for me. One of my brothers died and left me a surprising amount of money — high six figures. Word got out and now one of my lady friends is suddenly acting very interested, and being really sweet and loving. I like the attention, but I’m not stupid. What should I do? I never thought I’d be in a position where a woman wanted me for my wealth!

— In it for the Money? Portage la Prairie

Dear In it for the Money: A big windfall inheritance is a wonderful thing, especially when you’re older, so hurray for you. You’re actually in a great position to find a brand-new partner, and make a fresh start on a more romantic footing. You can look for a real romance now and be happy about your situation.

Because of your inheritance, you can afford personal care down the road, if you need it, and no new lady needs worry she’s signing on as a nursemaid.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My newly divorced son is about to propose marriage to the carbon copy of his first wife. Obviously, I’m worried. My son is educated, but unfortunately is work smart and people dumb.

As his mother, I need to warn him, so (blush), I took him to the bar to lower his defences. Three drinks later, I pulled out my special ammunition. My boy has always loved my homemade games, so I knew he’d give it a try.

It was a list of personality traits. I called out each trait, and he had to match them with his ex-wife, possible new fiancée, or both. By the end it was clear these two women may look different, but are exactly the same personality type.

Now I fear I was wasting my efforts. He’s not answering my calls, and that’s not like him.

— Worried Mom, St. Vital

Dear Worried Mom: You’re sounding like the possessive mother-in-law type. The silence may indicate both he and his lady are angry. If he went to her feeling insulted, he’ll no doubt have mentioned your customized game — and the phrase “carbon copy” may rankle.

A discussion about human beings, noting the types of mates they sometimes choose, would have gotten the message across more subtly. You need to take a big breath now and accept this type of woman is your son’s natural taste.

Then apologize! Tell your son you’re retiring from interfering and assure him you’ll step back. He can find his own way with his new love. You only have one son, and you don’t want to lose him.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

Our newsroom depends on a growing audience of readers to power our journalism. If you are not a paid reader, please consider becoming a subscriber.

Our newsroom depends on its audience of readers to power our journalism. Thank you for your support.

Report Error Submit a Tip

More Stories

Windfall eases angst over later-life partnership

Maureen Scurfield 4 minute read Tuesday, Sep. 19, 2023

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m retired and in my late 60s with three casual girlfriends — no sex — though I am healthy and up for it. It was their idea, and I’m OK with that. I get it! No smart woman wants to get physically close and married to a man my age, thinking they may soon have to look after him in his dotage.

Whenever any of my lady friends complain they’re not the only woman in my life, I explain why. They don’t argue the situation. They need to watch out for themselves; two of them are already widows, and one divorced.

Recently, everything changed for me. One of my brothers died and left me a surprising amount of money — high six figures. Word got out and now one of my lady friends is suddenly acting very interested, and being really sweet and loving. I like the attention, but I’m not stupid. What should I do? I never thought I’d be in a position where a woman wanted me for my wealth!

— In it for the Money? Portage la Prairie

Kinder, gentler drug crackdown finds support, tempered expectations in Main Street area

Chris Kitching 9 minute read Preview

Kinder, gentler drug crackdown finds support, tempered expectations in Main Street area

Chris Kitching 9 minute read Yesterday at 7:11 PM CDT

Drawing a lighter from his pocket, a shirtless man perched on a concrete wall outside United Way Winnipeg’s Main Street headquarters heats a substance in a glass pipe and moves the tube toward his mouth.

Read
Yesterday at 7:11 PM CDT

Survival guide offers a frightening perspective on life in U.S. prisons

Reviewed by Bill Rambo 4 minute read Preview

Survival guide offers a frightening perspective on life in U.S. prisons

Reviewed by Bill Rambo 4 minute read 2:01 AM CDT

Canadian criminal sentencing guidelines identify “three traditional utilitarian goals — deterrence … incapacitation and rehabilitation.”

In spite of lofty intentions, fiction and film have identified North American incarceration in general as largely negative, incapacitating most inmates only while they are actually behind bars. Prison often leads to more crime, teaching criminal behaviour.

Tom Nelson spent more than 17 years in medium and maximum security facilities in the U.S. for such pasttimes as auto theft, armed robbery and drug dealing. Then he turned that life of crime around and became a successful physical trainer and gym owner in Los Angeles.

Nelson met and formed a friendship with Taylor Sheridan, creator and writer of such series as Yellowstone, Landman and the prequels 1883 and 1923. When COVID devastated the gym business and Nelson’s health was failing, Sheridan suggested turning Nelson’s attempt at a screenplay about prison life into a book.

Read
2:01 AM CDT

The view from here: Phyllis Green. Boob Tree, 1975

2 minute read Preview

The view from here: Phyllis Green. Boob Tree, 1975

2 minute read 2:01 AM CDT

Staycation: The Art of Being Here feautres more than 100 Manitoba-related artworks from the Winnipeg Art Gallery-Qaumajuq collection, spanning the past 50 years. These pieces reveal how the places around us are layered with memory, story and lived experience. Over the coming weeks, the Free Press will spotlight works from this eclectic exhibition, each one offering a new way of seeing home. Experience it in person and enjoy some staycation time at the gallery, on view until December.

Phyllis Green. Boob Tree, 1975

(Yarn, wood. Collection of the Winnipeg Art Gallery; Acquired with funds from the Estate of Mr. and Mrs. Bernard Naylor, funds administered by The Winnipeg Foundation, 2014-128. Photo: Ernest Mayer.)

The year 1975 was designated International Women’s Year by the United Nations, and in celebration, the WAG staged the show Images of Women, which explored how women had historically been depicted, an impressive selection but by mostly male artists. Amid pushback from the community, Sharron Zenith Corne and Marian Yeo organized a second exhibition, Woman as Viewer, which challenged those portrayals by only featuring works by women. It was called the first Canadian exhibition of feminist art. American artist Phyllis Green’s Boob Tree, a four-foot-tall crochet sculpture of a cluster of breasts, adorned the exhibit posters, which were so popular they were snatched by passersby! The sculpture is playful and unsettling, re-appropriating the objectification of women’s bodies.

Read
2:01 AM CDT

Israel: the new political divide?

David McLaughlin 5 minute read Preview

Israel: the new political divide?

David McLaughlin 5 minute read 2:01 AM CDT

Abdul won and Avi is thrilled.

Federal NDP Leader Avi Lewis emerged from electoral hiding to tell us how it is “exhilarating to witness” a “wave of progressive populism” in the United States. He was referring to the upset winner of Tuesday’s heavily-watched Michigan Senate primary race, Abdul El-Sayed, who barely prevailed over his establishment opponent for the Democratic nomination.

Premier Wab Kinew’s favourite New Democrat (after himself) steadfastly hesitates to take a risk and run for a House of Commons seat in a byelection to kickstart Canada’s version of progressive populism. No hesitation, though, in Lewis immediately basking in the reflected glory of those international comrades and fellow travellers who do.

Writing about the state of Canada’s New Democrats feels like a hate crime — you hate wasting your time — and this is no exception. A better story is what’s driving this modest but undeniable political movement in U.S. politics and whether it might gain traction here in Canada.

Read
2:01 AM CDT

Mayoral race grows to 11 candidates

Joyanne Pursaga 2 minute read Yesterday at 3:21 PM CDT

Realtor Brad Gross is the 11th candidate to register for the race to become Winnipeg’s next mayor.

Gross, 60, said improving public safety and renewing roads will be key goals in his campaign.

“I just don’t like the direction the city’s going and it doesn’t seem to be getting better…. A lot of seniors, a lot of people are worried about crime. (And) the streets are just horrible again,” he said.

He said the city should not invest in bike lanes until Winnipeg’s roads are in better condition. He also hopes to provide free bus fares for seniors and gradually add security cameras at all bus shacks with known safety concerns, if elected.