Check cloud when deleting nude pics

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I took some pictures of my husband sprawled naked and sleeping across our bed and thought he would never see them. It turns out he’s a snoop and took a look through my photos on my open computer. That got me in trouble. He agrees with me the picture is very flattering and a great art shot, but he says he doesn’t want his bare butt online.

I love this shot and want to keep it forever! He made me take it off my computer in front of him, but I still have it elsewhere in a cloud storage program. Am I wrong to want to keep this gorgeous picture of my beloved husband? Some day when we’re both old, we’ll be able to look back at that perfect specimen of manhood and enjoy it. It only shows his bum and shoulder muscles and lots of thick hair on his head. Some day he may go bald and that may be missing. Why wouldn’t he want a shot of himself at the height of his masculine beauty? What do you think I should do? — Love His Naked Body, River Heights

Dear Love His Naked Body: You and I both know you’re not going to destroy every vestige of that sexy photo, so where are you going to preserve it? You’re going to have to put it on a memory stick and hide it in a private safety deposit box at the bank, not a joint one you share with him. Yes, it will cost you money — the price of being a sneak.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I read a comment recently in your column regarding a person who expressed sympathy to a friend who had an eating addiction. Her concern was that this friend “had to eat to live.” I am a grateful member of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and have been for many years. Early in my sobriety, I expressed the exact same concern to another AA member about a friend of mine who was struggling with overeating. I said, “He has to eat every day to live.” Her response was, “You and I have to drink to live.”

No further explanation was offered as the truth was evident — we all have choices and, seemingly, we all have afflictions of some sort that can become serious addictions if we make poor choices. And addicts have some incredibly creative excuses when it comes to surrendering their lives to the power of their affliction.

I hope the person who expressed concern for her friend was not simply repeating her friend’s excuse and will encourage the friend to make better eating choices. I encouraged my friend to do the same, and to try Overeaters Anonymous as an alternative to diffusing the living disease that food temporarily granted him. Every addict out there, in every form, needs to know there is always hope, but only they can open the door to hope and recovery. — Anonymous, Manitoba

Dear Anonymous: Good point. I have never heard the “we have to drink to live” comeback before, but it makes sense. An alcoholic has to bring a glass to his or her lips to drink many times a day and may often wish it were an alcoholic drink instead of water, juice or coffee. But they do it because they have to drink liquids to live. Thanks for taking the time to write.

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