Sexually transmitted infection blamed on bad karma

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m a spiritual person. It was karma that got me, I think, because I did something bad: I slipped up and cheated on my boyfriend and never told him.

I kept on seeing him and then very recently he gave me a sexually transmitted infection (STI). It’s not something that is going to kill me, but it’s bad enough.

I can accept I deserved that, but who did it come from? Does this mean he cheated on me with a bunch of women and didn’t tell me, or did he just get drunk like I did and cheat only once?

What if I get it back again from him after this treatment is finished? Should I make him wear a condom forever? 

— Bad Karma Both Ways, St. James

Dear Bad Karma Both Ways: He could have cheated on you just once and gotten something and passed it on, or cheated a whole lot more. The same goes for anyone. It often just takes one unlucky time. In your case, the outside sex partner had the bad gift that goes on giving.

It’s time you and this boyfriend had a talk. Since you’re both conducting an open relationship without agreeing to it, and don’t seem to want to break up, you might confess to wanting to have an open relationship and then take precautions, using barrier methods such as condoms.

Often the man and the woman both need to see a doctor and take medications at the same time so you don’t start playing STI ping-pong. Lots of guys don’t want to take anything when it seems you are the one who has the symptoms.

If this is not really a serious relationship, consider ending it. Just take the cure, break up and stay away from each other.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I yelled some bad swear words at my stupid neighbour for the lousy way he parked and blocked me in.

He didn’t say anything, just moved his big vehicle and gave me the evil eye.

I went to the store. When I came home, the tire on my summer car was flat as a pancake with a slash hole in it. Jeez, I wonder who did that?

My sister advised me to fix the tire and end the feud. It is more my nature to really tell that jerk off and demand he fix it or I’ll call the cops.

I haven’t done it yet because I wonder what his next move would be. What do you think? 

— Not Scared But Worried, North End

Dear Not Scared But Worried: Stop this ugly feud while the score is 1-1. You already know this guy’s vengeful nature and you have admitted you have a mouth that ignites fights. You might want to keep all your teeth.

You don’t have to bow to this neighbour, but you might take a stab at a peace talk. If you knock on his door, he will probably be too macho to hide from you.

Say something like this: “Look, I yelled some nasty stuff at you for the way you parked and now it looks like someone — I’m thinking probably you — slashed my tire while I was out. Do you want to work something out, like getting my tired fixed, and then we won’t have anything to do with each other anymore?”

If he says, as I predict, that he doesn’t know anything about your tire, then just give him a sidelong glance as you walk away, letting it be known that you don’t believe him.

Though you have your suspicions, you really don’t have any proof and MPI will pay for vandalism (probably minus your deductible).

Do you want to call the police? That’s your other option, and at least it shows you’re not scared of the guy — though it will keep the feud going.

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