Fur on his hat hid his lack of hair

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I met a man with a big fuzzy Russian hat at The Forks and fell for his exotic manly look. We spent 30 minutes together in the Ice Castles and he never took off the hat. He asked me out and I said yes. I loved his look.

I met him two nights later for dinner and couldn’t find him in the dining room. I walked right past him because I didn’t recognize him. I came from behind and saw a guy with a bald head and fringe. It turns out he’s young like me, but with a shiny bald head. The hat was on the floor beside him. I said awkwardly that I was sorry, but I didn’t recognize him. He asked if it was because he was bald. He said he fooled me when we met at The Forks and laughed about it. I laughed along with him, but felt yucky and the date didn’t go very well. Am I just showing how shallow I am? — Not Hot For Him Anymore, Winnipeg

Dear Not Hot For Him Anymore: If this fellow had shown the warmth of his personality, you might have gotten past the disappointment quickly and found out you liked the guy just as much without the furry hat covering his bald head. But he got defensive and, let’s face it, you probably had a shocked look on your face.

You could use this as a lesson to try to get to know people a little longer than 30 minutes before you accept a date.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is in regards to the letter from the husband of the woman who showed up at home with the wrong clothes on, who signed himself Don’t Want To Beg. (She was wearing a man’s T-shirt and jeans. The husband guessed they came from being with another guy, but she won’t say anything about it.)

You suggested he play a guessing game with her to see if she will confess and you also suggested counselling, but I wonder if she may have been sexually assaulted. If her own clothes had been ruined, it might explain why she wound up coming home in whatever clothing she could get her hands on, and withdrew from the conversation (and the relationship) when it was brought up.

Assuming you’re in contact with the letter writer, you might want to mention this possibility and urge him to tread carefully, maybe even discuss the situation with a rape crisis counsellor to avoid doing inadvertent harm. — Serious Business, Winnipeg

Dear Serious Business: Thanks for your input. That is a very real possibility and I’ll write the worried husband about your theory.

It’s a very odd situation. Why did his partner need new clothes to come home in and take the chance of looking odd to her husband? He also said she looked guilty.

It’s strange the woman couldn’t just say what happened if there was nothing to it, such as, for instance, she fell on the slushy sidewalk. If anybody else out there has some ideas on this, please write in and share.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, R2X 3B6 

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