Lakeside love goes awry thanks to aggrieved girlfriend

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I took my new girlfriend up to the lake to meet my family. Everything seemed to go well until about 10 p.m., when she said, “I don’t want to sleep here. I want to go home.” My mom had made up a nice bed for her in the new guest cabin out back, under the trees. My mom told me I was sleeping in the main cabin, but I fully intended to sneak out to my girlfriend for some cuddles.

Suddenly, I was having to explain to my mother that my girlfriend “felt sick” and wanted to go home, so I drove her to Winnipeg late that evening.

She wasn’t sick at all. She was just annoyed we weren’t being given a bed together. We are both old enough and she said she felt my mother had “disrespected” our relationship.

My mother’s old-fashioned, not disrespectful of our relationship. I wouldn’t have minded doing a little sneaking around — wouldn’t be the first time at the cabin with a girlfriend. I’m sure both my parents expected it, as they’re not stupid and they know their son.

By the way, this girlfriend and I are 20 and 21. I’m feeling annoyed and turned off with her, though we haven’t broken up. What do you think?

— Mama’s Boy? Lake of the Woods

Dear Mama’s Boy: You need a different type of girlfriend, one who isn’t so easily miffed by parents and their ways. Or you need to sit down and have a long discussion with this girlfriend and see if you can’t make her understand how your family works. They weren’t insulting her. If she doesn’t get it and things cool off, then she wasn’t the right one for you.

Next time, pick a girl who’ll enjoy your family and won’t mind if the midnight mover (that’d be you) is gently knocking on the guest cabin door to welcome her improperly to the lake.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: When I’m meeting someone in person from an online dating site, I always give the guy only my first name and a false work story, and insist on picking him up at his home address. I also tell him I live in a different part of town than I actually do.

So I met this dude who seemed like a lot of fun for a second date, and partway through the date, I told him my real job. He asked what else I had lied about, and I said, “Just my part of town, nothing major.”

He said, “You’ve had my real name and address all along, my work details, stories about of my family — all true. I find your lies a real turnoff.” He got up and left me sitting on a bench by the riverbank at The Forks and walked towards the cabs.

I was shocked! This fibbing has always worked for me before, and most guys don’t make the first cut anyway. Just goes to show, you can’t trust men and how ignorant they can be.

What was his problem anyway?

— Ticked Off, Manitoba

Dear Ticked Off: Your lying was his problem. You had his real name right away. You also insisted on picking him up at his house on both dates, so you knew his address.

Why would you continue to use false information about yourself, when you had all that true information offered willingly? Why should he trust you now?

How about you forget about online dating and only date people you meet through friends and family — so you can be completely honest with them from the start?

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