Devil’s in the details with former sex buddy

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Sitting down on the bus, I noticed the back of a familiar head of thick, long brown hair, belonging to a guy. He had it in a ponytail and I recognized his long ears sticking out a little bit. I knew it was the guy I was going out with, or rather “staying in with,” a year ago, when there were no COVID-19 warnings against sex buddies.

When he got up to slowly exit the bus, he gave me a devilish smile, and it triggered the memory of his cell number in my head.

There was hardly anybody on the bus by then and he said, as he waited for the door to open, “You seeing anybody these days, beautiful?” and I said, “Not, not since you,” and he laughed and said, “Me neither!”

Now, I don’t know if he was making a joke, or he really meant he’s not had sex since me. Not likely! Believe me, he could get a girl anytime.

Since then, I’ve been dying to call him to see how he’s doing. These days, I’m so desperately lonely for male company (and for a little touch), that I’m weighing the possibilities of trying to get a social bubble going with him.

I’m not sure if I should trust him, but do you think maybe he’s changed? —Tempted to Call That Devil, Downtown

Dear Tempted: He may have slowed down, but it’s not likely he’s completely changed. He may have a bubble, but maybe a larger one than you’d like.

Always be aware there are numerous contributors to a decision, like the rational consideration in your head, the insistent tingles in your body and dis-inhibitors such as liquor and/or drugs.

If you must somehow quell this urge, put this little devil on a “See Him Later” list for when everybody’s vaccinated. Even then, make sure he shows you the proof, whatever that will be!

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My wife has gotten very difficult about money. She has a job and I don’t now. We’re older, so she sees herself as the money manager.

I like to gamble and do very well at it, but she doesn’t want any of her money used as a “gambling investment.” That’s what I like to call it, and she hates the term. Hey, I worked hard all my life and now I have time on my hands and like to have a little fun.

I don’t appreciate her disrespect these days either.  I remind her, “At least I don’t chase women!” and she says “Go ahead!”

When she was at home with the kids and I was working, I gave her $1,800 a month as the mother and housekeeper, and didn’t ask her what she did with it. Now I have to ask her for money to go out! She has a good job and makes about as much money as I made when she was home, but I don’t get an allowance like she used to.

Her stinginess makes me want to gamble more! — Fed Up With Her, North Kildonan

Dear Fed Up: Do you have a lot of time on your hands now, and find yourself bored? Maybe a half-time job would fill that time with interest and amusement, and you’d win back your wife’s respect — because that is the issue here.

She feels you’re throwing money at gambling while she goes to work full time and pays the bills. She used to use the money you gave her to pay for the children’s food and clothing — not gambling.

If you had a job of your own, you’d not be in the position of asking for money to go out, and you wouldn’t be using your wife’s money for the gambling she detests.

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