Don’t make big hairy deal of shirtless hubby

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This article was published 12/06/2021 (1926 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Every year my husband goes out into the sun without his shirt to cut the grass where people walk by. It makes me cringe! He’s a larger, very hairy man, and not young anymore.

While I love my big bear, the rest of the street doesn’t seem to. We get strange looks from people when he’s outside, and it makes me so embarrassed.

I don’t have the heart to say anything because I love him, but I feel the same way every summer, and I felt like I needed to tell someone. — Embarrassed by Yogi Bear, East Kildonan

Dear Embarrassed: If you don’t intend to say anything, then you’ll need to change your attitude so there’s no more stress for you.

Next time Yogi is out mowing, make him a big drink and thank him for doing the job — and then vamoose! Go in the house and get involved in watching something on TV.

Also realize there are things you do that drive your man up the wall, and he’s not telling you. He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings or start a pointless fight.

Also be aware: If you shamed him into wearing a shirt because of his big, hairy body, it might not be good for your sex life. You’re wise to button your lip, for the greater good.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a single lady and just moved into my forever home. I saved for many years, doing without, so I could buy it. The neighbours were all very welcoming during the first week. I was finally home — or so I thought.

The second week — on a very hot night — I heard loud splashing and giggling. Because of the late hour, I was curious, and had a look into my neighbours’ yard from my raised deck. I saw this “scene” going on in their large hot tub.

It was dusk, but they had coloured lights in the tub. I couldn’t believe what I saw!

I quickly sat down in shock, but my neighbours caught me looking, and the man particularly put on a show for me, if you know what I mean. I couldn’t take my eyes off what I was witnessing — not because I was intrigued, but more like I was looking at a car wreck.

Now the shock has worn off, I’m having such mixed emotions. Was he inviting me to join in with him and his wife, or did he just enjoy getting caught? I cannot get these thoughts out of my head. What to do? — Shocked New Neighbour, River Heights

Dear Shocked: The sooner you put something out on your deck to block the view, the sooner the randy neighbours will get the message you don’t want an invitation to play adult games in their pool.

Unless the scene is secretly calling you back for another view, a privacy fence with greenery woven through it would look summery on the side of your deck.

Or, you might want a three-panel bamboo privacy screen. It’s light to move and can be kept indoors until you need it.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: What’s the deal with guys who date women just to borrow money from them? I seem to have a way of attracting these jerks like a magnet.

This is the third time in my life (I’m only 28) where I’ve dated a guy, lent him some money when he was in a bad spot (or so he said) and then never heard from him again.

Admittedly I like to go for the bad boys, but eventually I’ll find one who has their life together. They don’t all act this way, right? — Hard Working Woman, Osborne Village

Dear Hard Working: How about chasing after the exciting guys with jobs and some money, instead of the daring bad boys who are too often without both?

It comes down to the same rush, except the guys doing exciting things — like adventure sports, working at challenging jobs and travelling (in non-COVID times) — might be keepers.

They’re bound to be more fun than guys who are just overgrown adolescents, still (yawn) rebelling. Against what?

By the way, asking for a loan — and not paying it back — may be how they treated Mommy. And perhaps still do!

Time to look for a real man. To make that easier, start doing exciting things yourself which will attract adventurous guys to your door.

 

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.