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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m writing as I know how the young widow of East Kildonan feels. I also lost my husband suddenly, back in February. She needs to accept the invitations out with her friends; it’s important not to lose those ties. I’m still lost without my husband and most days it’s very difficult to face life. My friends don’t know how I feel, but they listen, and try to support me in my journey. If she’d like to talk with me over the phone, I would be willing to listen to her. It’s not easy to talk about your pain and sorrow, but those feelings need to come out. I’m nowhere near healing my heart, body or soul, but I’m trying. All we can do is live life one day at a time, and know that our loved ones are always with us. — Knowing Her Feelings, Winnipeg

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m writing as I know how the young widow of East Kildonan feels. I also lost my husband suddenly, back in February. She needs to accept the invitations out with her friends; it’s important not to lose those ties. I’m still lost without my husband and most days it’s very difficult to face life. My friends don’t know how I feel, but they listen, and try to support me in my journey. If she’d like to talk with me over the phone, I would be willing to listen to her. It’s not easy to talk about your pain and sorrow, but those feelings need to come out. I’m nowhere near healing my heart, body or soul, but I’m trying. All we can do is live life one day at a time, and know that our loved ones are always with us. — Knowing Her Feelings, Winnipeg

 

Dear Knowing: Your offer is very kind and generous, but I can’t get people together for security reasons on both sides. We can hope she will see your letter here and know she has your good wishes, and realize she’s not alone with this problem.

 

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave. Winnipeg R2X 3B6.

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