Don’t delay giving Valentine’s present

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I only have $10 to spend for Valentine’s Day, and I wonder if it’s worth giving my girlfriend some little thing or asking her if she can wait two weeks until I get paid. I am 16 and have a part-time job. — Love Her A Lot, North End

Dear Love Her A Lot: No, don’t ruin the day by asking for a two-week extension. Get creative instead. For $10, you can buy her one perfect rose and make a homemade card on the computer or with some coloured paper using a magazine with romantic pictures to paste on it. Or, you could draw a sweet picture of the two of you — even as stick figures — and write a little poem inside. You can start with the first two lines of that old favourite: “Roses are red/Violets are blue… ” She might keep that homemade Valentine all her life. Asking for an extension just makes you sound like a disorganized kid — and let’s hope you’re past that.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I really like a girl at school and I want to phone her on Valentine’s Day and talk to her. I like hearing her voice, and one time we talked for an hour and then she kissed me goodnight on the phone. I want to do that again. We haven’t been hanging out because I live on one side of the city, and she moved to the other side. Should I phone her? What should I say? — New at This, Age 13

Dear New at This: Yes, phone her and say, “I’m calling to wish you a happy Valentine’s Day. Do you have time to talk?” That could be the start of a very nice conversation, and maybe another kiss. If she says she’s busy, then just let it go by saying, “OK, we’ll chat another time. Have a great day!” (That’s only likely to happen if she has another boyfriend now.)

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a woman in her 30s with a bit of a problem: I’m pregnant and my boyfriend doesn’t know. I don’t for sure if he would be pleased or not if I told him on Valentine’s Day. He’ll be shocked for sure because we always use two methods of birth control, but that one little swimmer just got through. I will keep the baby no matter what he says. What do you think? — Pregnant Valentine, Windsor Park

Dear Pregnant Valentine: If you and your boyfriend had been trying to get pregnant, it would be a fine time to announce your success. But since this didn’t appear to be in the plans at all, keep it a secret for another week or so, and then start dropping some hints — strong enough ones that he starts to play with the idea in his mind. He may be the kind of guy who needs a week’s turnaround before he comes to his final feelings about a surprising thing — especially when it’s this big.

So get started on that process without the added pressure of Valentine’s Day. You’ve already decided you’re keeping this baby, so you don’t need to hear a bunch of arguments against that decision, on an emotional day.

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