Politely tell old boyfriend to buzz off

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My husband died recently and an old boyfriend came crawling out of the woodwork. First he appeared on Facebook sending his condolences. That was laughable because he hated my husband who stole me from him. On Valentine's Day and Easter, I got deliveries of red roses. He recently sent me some ugly selfies. This morning I got his third request for a dinner date and I politely said no once again.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My husband died recently and an old boyfriend came crawling out of the woodwork. First he appeared on Facebook sending his condolences. That was laughable because he hated my husband who stole me from him. On Valentine’s Day and Easter, I got deliveries of red roses. He recently sent me some ugly selfies. This morning I got his third request for a dinner date and I politely said no once again.

 

I made the mistake of having coffee with him about a month ago, and he was such an un-classy jerk! He phones all the time. Please tell me how to get rid of him for good without being rude. I am a Canadian, you know. — Too Polite, Westwood

 

Dear Too Polite: This kind of stubborn in-your-face man needs to be told very clearly to cease and desist. Go to your private messages with him on Facebook and write him a kiss-off letter. Tell him you realize you two are not, and never will be, a match. Say you feel awkward communicating with him when there is no future. Wish him a happy life, and them unfriend him and block him.

 

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6

 

 

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