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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I just got a new boss and I'm really attracted to her. She is a lesbian and I am still in the closet. I literally run for her all day long at work. She says she's never seen anyone who works so hard and fast, and she has to ask me to go home at 5 p.m., otherwise I would stay as long as she does. She is a magnet for me. I love her voice, her eyes, the way she talks on the phone and treats people under her. I'm really not used to being treated well at work, but she is a dream to work for. Our entire staff is working a lot harder. I'm afraid she will notice my crush, and half-afraid she won't! How should I conduct myself? My head's in a spin. I think I am falling in love with her.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I just got a new boss and I’m really attracted to her. She is a lesbian and I am still in the closet. I literally run for her all day long at work. She says she’s never seen anyone who works so hard and fast, and she has to ask me to go home at 5 p.m., otherwise I would stay as long as she does. She is a magnet for me. I love her voice, her eyes, the way she talks on the phone and treats people under her. I’m really not used to being treated well at work, but she is a dream to work for. Our entire staff is working a lot harder. I’m afraid she will notice my crush, and half-afraid she won’t! How should I conduct myself? My head’s in a spin. I think I am falling in love with her.

— Working Hard, Winnipeg

 

Dear Working Hard: It’s a long way from a crush to falling in love, so don’t start measuring anything yet. Your boss is new on the scene and this is just the beginning. If she’s as good a boss as you say, she won’t be entertaining any romances in the workplace. There is something to be said for liking one’s boss, however — everything goes more smoothly. But sitting there dreamy-eyed would be a bad move, as she would feel she had to somehow distance herself from you.

Keep this as your secret crush and pursue your romantic life outside the office. Lots of people do that for years on end. The crush gradually wears down as you hit little bumps in the road and you’ll probably end up feeling fond of this boss, not “in love” and trying to hide it. Just accept how excited you feel today as infatuation, but start going home without having to be told, otherwise it looks like you’re trying to be alone in the office with the boss, who may actually be aware of your shiny eyes. This flame will fade slowly if you don’t feed it.

 

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I just got a new boss and I'm really attracted to her. She is a lesbian and I am still in the closet. I literally run for her all day long at work. She says she's never seen anyone who works so hard and fast, and she has to ask me to go home at 5 p.m., otherwise I would stay as long as she does. She is a magnet for me. I love her voice, her eyes, the way she talks on the phone and treats people under her. I'm really not used to being treated well at work, but she is a dream to work for. Our entire staff is working a lot harder. I'm afraid she will notice my crush, and half-afraid she won't! How should I conduct myself? My head's in a spin. I think I am falling in love with her.

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