Marriage was fine until plane took off

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I married my longtime boyfriend because it seemed like the natural progression. It was a nice ordinary wedding and he’s very kind and sweet. We got on an airplane to go on our honeymoon and I sat next to this guy who turned out to be everything I had every wanted in a man — looks, personality, worldly experience. So I have him on one side of me and my new husband snoring with his mouth open on the other side.

The new guy and I fell in love over a two-hour talk and sealed it with a tentative kiss that went way beyond that in the bathroom as we joined the Mile High Club. I wish I felt ashamed, but I don’t. I feel grateful he showed me how much more exciting my life could be. Now I’m back in Winnipeg and am talking to the new guy online all the time and am totally bored with my new husband. Last night, when I refused to have sex with my husband again, he said in a sad voice, “It sure doesn’t feel like we’re newlyweds.” What should I do?

— Torn Between Two, Winnipeg

Dear Torn Between Two: Your timing is interesting. You just got married and quickly found an exit door. I’m of the opinion that people shouldn’t get married unless they both can’t help themselves. You lived with this guy without marrying him for a long time, so you felt no burning need to nail him down for life. Reluctant might-as-well marriages don’t stand a very good chance these days. You two need a trip to the relationship counsellor’s office for a serious double session. Your husband is disappointed in the way you are behaving as his new wife, and you’ve already found a possible substitute. Maybe both of you want out of this.

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