Determine if fears about your husband are true

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I come from a religious family and have been very protected, but I think my husband is going gay. I looked at his computer, which he tells me is for work only, and I saw pictures of naked men. I’m not allowed to look on his computer. He’s very strict about that and he always takes care to lock the door to his computer room, but he was in a hurry and forgot to lock it last week and I confess, I looked. Now I wonder what he does when he’s in the city so many nights. Maybe this explains why we hardly ever have marriage relations and we have no children. I am crying all the time now. I can’t ask him because he might hit me. What should I do?

— Innocent Wife, Southern Manitoba

Dear Innocent Wife: Is there someone close to you in the family you can talk to? You don’t say what your religion is, but you can’t be expected to stay with a man who wants another man, not a wife. It’s also dangerous to you if he’s having sex with other people. He could pick up a sexually transmitted infection.

Perhaps he married you so he would be accepted by the community. If he married you under false pretenses, you deserve to be free. Maybe you could approach the parent you are closest to, or an older brother or sister to begin with. There’s no sense in risking a beating. You say he might hit you, as if he already has. Does your religion permit you to re-marry if you get divorced? Can you at least get free?

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