Feeling grounded after flying high during airport layover

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I met a gorgeous stranger on an airplane in the U.S. and we got to talking and laughing and spent our time together waiting for connecting flights — several hours — eating and drinking in the bar. We had so much in common and were so mutually attracted to each other. I didn’t see a ring on his finger or a white band where a tan should be. We had a few too many drinks, kissed and necked in the bar, found a private bathroom, locked the door and did the wild thing.

When we parted he said he would call me real soon. On a weird hunch that came from the back of my brain, I said, “OK, you call me first if you mean that.” We traded business cards and promises to call, but it’s been a week now and he hasn’t. Do you think he lost my card? He knows my full name and where I work because we talked about it. Should I call him?

— Airport Luv Affair? Winnipeg

Dear Airport Luv Affair: That sounds like a Lust Affair. If a guy is truly crazy about a woman and wants to see her again, he’s usually trigger-happy and can’t wait to push some buttons and call or text by the next day. And, if he treasured having your card, he would have put it where he wouldn’t lose it. If he accidentally lost the card, he would still piece together the information he had about you and call your work.

You could call him, if you want a bucket of cool-ish water over the head. Remember, you asked him to call you first — that was the deal — and he hasn’t, so it’s likely he was just fooling around and having fun at the airport. He may be in a relationship and not wearing a ring, or he’s a player at bars, restaurants, airports — anywhere — and he hoped you were just playing, too.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I hate my landlady and she hates me. I strongly suspect she’s going into my room when I’m not there to look through my stuff. She rents rooms to students and we all have keys to lock them.

The biggest clue is my lingerie drawer — things don’t seem quite right there — and also in my drawer of medications, feminine-hygiene and birth-control products (including condoms). When my boyfriend came to pick me up today she was in the yard and wagged her finger at me like an old witch. How can I tell if she’s actually snooping in my drawers or if I’m just paranoid?

— Suspecting Landlady’s Snooping, Winnipeg

Dear Suspecting: This is not a secure way to live. Your nest should always feel safe and peaceful. As for the finger waving, that’s a unspoken combination of disapproval and warning about you and your young man, as in “Don’t think you can have sex with him in your room,” which might mean she’s seen the contraceptives. At any rate, it’s inappropriate for her to be making finger signs at you.

Play detective to catch her. Pile your panties up a certain way with a few small pieces of coloured paper between them. Also arrange the stuff in your other drawers with little pieces of paper in certain spots between the products. Memorize the setup of colours and placement. You will soon figure out if someone has been going through your drawers. And today, start looking for a different place to live. Move out, ASAP.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I fell for a beautiful woman when I was working at a fishing camp, but she was from another country and travelling through Canada, working under the table. She has been keeping in touch with me everywhere she goes as she moves west. I can tell she really likes me, too. She has invited me to visit her in Scandinavia when she’s back home this fall.

I begged her to come see me one more time before she leaves Canada, but she said she already has a ticket back home from Vancouver on a certain date and not enough money to retrace her steps. I am tempted to go to Vancouver because we haven’t even slept together yet, and who knows, everything could fall flat. What do you think?

— Enchanted By Her, Lake Country

Dear Enchanted By Her: Do you have enough money to fly to Vancouver for a week to see how the budding relationship goes? If it goes swimmingly by the Pacific Ocean, then you could take a chance and fly across the Atlantic to her home country in the fall. Making that trip, without really connecting on all levels here in Canada, could be very chancy and would be expensive.

So try to find a discount deal and meet her in Vancouver. It will cost you a lot less and you could go home easily if things fizzled. If she doesn’t want you to come to Vancouver, something’s changed in her interest level, and a bigger trip in the fall should then be off the table. Summer love, when the weather is beautiful, can be so fickle.

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