Her dream date turned into a nightmare

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I really like this gorgeous guy and we had our first date at a fancy place at The Forks. I was nervous and drank and ate too much. Then, I threw up and ran for the ladies room. He waited outside for a bit and then came in after me. He found me in a stall on the floor and helped me up.

He paid the bill and drove me to my parents because he said he couldn’t leave me alone in my apartment. I didn’t want him to see me further humiliate myself, anyway.

He hasn’t phoned or texted me since. Do you think he’ll ever phone again? I have tried to get in touch with him, but he’s not answering. Should I give up on him? I’m so sorry for being such an idiot. I know I drink too much, especially when I’m nervous. I also threw up a very expensive dinner and dessert. Please help.

— Young & Stupid Idiot, Winnipeg

Dear Young: Honey, you blew this one, so don’t hold your breath waiting for him to call you. This experience does not make you a stupid idiot, especially if you look at this as a sign you need to get help for your addiction. Drinking too much is a bad sign at any age. You need to call the Addictions Foundation of Manitoba for an assessment and find out what help they can give you. You also need to see a counsellor about your self-esteem and anxiety around new people.

Yes, this date was an ugly scene, but it was also a big wake-up call. As for the guy, he apparently doesn’t want to take your calls, so just let it go. Once you get yourself into a strong and healthier state of mind, maybe you’ll run into him again and be able to thank him for taking care of you that night.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My younger sister (an immature 12-year-old) hid under my bed when I was on the phone to my best friend and heard everything we were talking about, including fooling around with guys and sex. Then, she went and blabbed to my mom who threw a fit and spoke to my dad. As a result, I’m grounded for a month and have been warned not to beat up my sister or it will be two months.

I told my sister I will get her back in exactly the same way, so she should watch herself. She says she doesn’t care because she isn’t into boys, anyway. How can I get her back in a way she’ll really feel it? She’s still my sister but I’m going to get her.

— Want My Revenge, St. Vital

Dear Revenge: You are already getting your revenge. She is waiting for the axe to fall, while you do nothing. She will be imagining you trying to listen to her phone messages and hacking into her computer. Go about your merry way and let her imagination do the rest.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: On the way to work, I ran into an old boyfriend, almost literally. I hit his bumper. He jumped out to yell at me, saw who it was, and gave me a hug and a kiss. We had been wild and passionate lovers, but we broke up a few years ago. “Remind me why we broke up?” he asked, but I was too dazed and confused to answer.

While we were exchanging information, he asked me to go out with him again someday, and I said yes. He never called to complete the arrangements and I don’t see why I should call him when he made the first move. Should I call?

— Itching to See Him, St. James

Dear Itching: By all means, call him. If this were a business lunch, you’d call him immediately. The same goes for romance. Never waste time wondering if you should pick up the phone. Let us know what he has to say for himself and we can talk that over in a future column. Until you call, it will remain a mystery and that’s a waste of time and emotion.

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