Victory is yours, now it’s time to move on

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This article was published 22/02/2019 (2448 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I saw my old boyfriend the other day with the sleaze who took him away from me. She’s a many-trick pony, in every sense of the word, but he didn’t know it when he met her. Now they are tied together with a child.

I caught them fighting in front of a store at St. Vital Centre, with their baby screaming in his stroller.

I walked by, caught his eye, and gave him a “serves you right” smirk. He called me several times that night, but I didn’t answer. 

My new man knows how to treat a woman. I have learned many new ways to make love, and to make my partner happy both inside and outside the bedroom. 

My ex accused me of being a “boring one-trick pony” because I was a virgin when I met him. Now he’s stuck with his sleazy “semi-pro” and their baby. I know her reputation for getting around. I also know why he’s calling me. He’s a persistent salesman and I know he won’t give up. He probably wants me back. I just want to get even. What do you suggest?

— Tempted To Hear Him Grovel, Charleswood

Dear Tempted: Don’t you know when you’ve won? You got even with this ex when you caught him fighting publicly with his woman. Count the smirk as your victory, and move on.

Yes, it may be tempting to talk to him, hoping he’ll crawl to get you back, but that won’t be why he’s calling. It’s all about damage control and self-aggrandizement, and trying to repair his cool, in-control image with you.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have three women in my life and things are getting complicated. There’s the woman I live with, who makes me laugh on a daily basis. She also cooks for me and washes my clothes.

Then there’s the second woman, who’s been gaining on the first one with her sexiness, intelligence, work ethic and need to pay for half of everything. The third is coming up the back stretch. She’s young and bouncy and beautiful, and shares my love of fast cars. 

Some would say I’m blessed, but I feel like I’m messed up and don’t know where my heart is going. 

— 30-Something Sinner, Winnipeg

Dear Sinner: “One” may be the loneliest number, according to the old song, but “two” and “three” are definitely the most dangerous. These love triangles and quadrangles can end in terrible fights, recriminations and even violence. 

Each woman seems to fulfil different needs — which means you settled down too soon.

You don’t mention children, so maybe it’s not too late to set all these women free.

Then you can enjoy some freedom and keep on maturing until you find a match who embodies everything you are looking for in a partner.  

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave. Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Miss Lonelyhearts
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