Spending hot summer with co-worker might not be cool

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I don’t know if this can be helped, but I am trying to squash down my attraction for a male teacher in my school. He and I spend a lot of time together, as we sometimes work together. I’m not married and neither is he, but I know him to be a player. We have only gotten carried away a couple of times, but now the whole summer is free and who’s to know? But then, what if it doesn’t go well and what happens in the fall?

— Teacher Needing Teaching, Winnipeg

Dear Teacher Needing Teaching: You need to talk about this openly and not avoid the emotional aspect out of pride. Does this guy want anything more than casual sex? Do you? Are either or both of you open to a real relationship? If this is just playtime for him, do you want to invest your emotions over a whole summer? Do either of you think you might like to get serious? Unless you are matched on what you want, you could get yourself into a hot mess by fall.

You can compromise. You might decide you want to have a free fling for the first week of the summer after school’s out and then say goodbye until September. A whole summer together is a bad mistake unless you’re getting engaged in the fall. School officials tolerate engagement and marriage much better than sneaky romances between staff.

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