Dump loser boyfriend now and start fresh in 2018

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My new year’s vow is to dump my no-good cheating boyfriend, but should I do it before or after Dec. 31?

On the one hand, I don’t want to taint 2018 with his lazy butt still around; on the other hand, I don’t want to spend New Year’s Eve with no one.

What do you think? I’m so sick of him. I know he’s sick of me since he’s cheating, although he’ll play the victim card and go for everyone’s sympathy. — Best Dumping Time? St. Boniface

Dear Best Dumping Time: Since you’re both sick of each other, get the breakup over with now and start 2018 fresh.

Be very frank that you know he’s sick of you and why — bring up the cheating. Tell him other reasons you’re tired of him and ready to end your relationship.

If he’s dramatic, number them and use a no-nonsense voice. That will make him squirmy and mad, so it will be harder for him to play the victim card.

Keep it short, whatever method. Nothing is worse than a long, drawn-out breakup complete with crying, clinging and/or yelling.

But worse still can be the nasty long letter that can be read over and over again, usually written by the woman.

Texting is out since it’s so rude, unless texting and some random sex is pretty much all the relationship has been.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My wife and I are poverty-stricken honeymooners after our big wedding. We also have big families and spend our cash on Christmas and usually arrive at the end of the year broke.

We promised each other last year we wouldn’t have another New Year’s Eve fizzle. What do you do if you don’t have enough money to go out for New Year’s Eve?

My wife says New Year’s Eve used to be the biggest event of the year in her hometown, with everybody going to a hairdresser and wearing new dresses and then kissing everybody at the dance at midnight. People joined hands and sang Auld Lang Syne and shot off fireworks at the end of town.

What can we do in the city for next to nothing? — Ready To Party But No Money, Osborne Village

Dear Ready To Party But No Money: Start off the evening early with friends at home at sundown, having an inexpensive spaghetti and wine dinner.

Then dress warmly and hop a bus to The Forks where there are horse-drawn wagon rides until 7 p.m. and a musical countdown at 7:40 p.m. for early fireworks at 8 p.m.

If you want to stay home with friends and start things later, then head out later to The Forks for the midnight fireworks show designed by Archangel Fireworks. It’s a great opportunity for anyone who has had enough of their New Year’s Eve parties and events.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My husband and I are athletic and also nature lovers. We prefer to be outside on New Year’s Eve.

A few weeks ago, my husband suggested we go winter camping, but I’m afraid of freezing to death. I keep picturing us frozen stiff in our sleeping bags and never waking up.

My husband knows I’m scared, but he wants me to push through the fear and try it anyway. He has bought the equipment, but I’m still balking. We live just outside the city on a big lot. — Scared Stiff, St. Andrews

Dear Scared Stiff: For your first adventure with winter camping, you might do it on your own property, much as kids used to pitch a tent in the summer and sleep in the backyard.

It’s realistic enough when the lights all go out and you can hear the night noises — the wind in the trees or the rustling sound of a small animal skittering across the snow.

But if things get too cold for you on this first foray into winter camping, you can hustle back into the house and jump into bed in your toasty bedroom.

You know the old saying, “Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.” By totally rejecting this outdoor winter sleeping adventure, you could rid yourself of the worry, but also cheat yourself of the beginning of a wonderful new experience under the stars in nature that you and your husband will enjoy for many winters to come.

You should check out proper heaters for this venture, so it’s warm enough in the tent for New Year’s Eve lovemaking.

If you don’t like the forecast for this New Year’s Eve, see if he will wait until the temperature warms up a bit so it’s fun for both of you.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave. Winnipeg R2X 3B6.

Miss Lonelyhearts
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