Party antics the last straw

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This article was published 31/12/2017 (3200 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Happy New Year’s Eve, Dear Readers. The challenging year of 2017 is almost behind us, and you’ll be happy to know one thing: experts say people are starting to value relationships and face-to-face communication again. As the world has heated up atmospherically and politically, people have started thinking about how fragile we are on Earth, how short life is and how much we need the closeness of loved ones.

People have also started realizing joy, health and happiness are not a given. We must fight to make more time together, offer forgiveness, get closer again through a return of inexpensive social activities right where we live.

The computer has reduced loving connection at home, and in the last year, people have started putting down their cellphones to interact with loved ones at their dinner tables — to eat with them, talk with them, clear the table and play games.

Conversation and kibitzing are back in vogue! This is all good and hopeful.

Enjoy this New Year’s Eve. And tomorrow, make some plans for a more loving 2018 at home, at work, in your community and in the world.

— Warmly, Miss Lonelyhearts

And now to the mail bag…

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My girlfriend, in an angry and drunk moment, told me at my office Christmas party that she’s waiting for the right time to tell me goodbye. She said if I made one more wrong move, I was out the door.

At that Christmas party, I got caught meeting a co-worker for a few kisses in the washroom. My girlfriend had been looking for me, and noticed the other woman was gone, too.

Now something is going on. I overheard bits of a phone conversation, and I think my girlfriend has found a friend to move in for Jan. 15 and take over my half of the rent.

I can’t afford to live in this style by myself anywhere else. But I don’t know if she’s getting rid of me or not, and the sad thing is I love her.

She can’t kick me out with nowhere to go! Shouldn’t she at least give me to the end of January if she wants to end things? — Waiting and Worrying, Osborne Village

Dear Waiting and Worrying: There’s an old saying that goes “There’s only one thing worse than getting hit, and that’s waiting to get hit.” You can shorten this torture by asking exactly what is happening, and then taking action and looking for a new place if you need one.

Also, face this fact: you’ve been pushing for this. You dared your girlfriend, who had put you on last-chance status, by taking off with this woman for some fooling around at your work Christmas party and humiliating your girlfriend. You definitely deserve to get punted out of the place where, I gather, her name is on the lease.

Ask her what date she wants you out, and what date this friend is moving in. It may be she’s kept it quiet, because the friend is unsure if she wants to step into this mess.

It’s past time you grew up, and become a real man instead of an overgrown teenager.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6

Miss Lonelyhearts
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