Daughter spilled the beans on mom’s unfaithful man

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My single mom is dating a guy I don’t like, and she knows it. He doesn’t stay here overnight. She goes to his place some nights and comes home late. He drives a recognizable vehicle and we know where he lives. I’ve had my licence for the past year.

Recently, mom has been looking sad and not seeing him as often. On Saturday night, I came home at 3 a.m. and spotted his fancy truck in the driveway of one of my mother’s friends. I asked my mom in the morning why she didn’t see her guy on a Saturday night and she said, “Because he had to work the graveyard shift so he was busy all night.” I’ll bet he was getting busy. So I told my mom where I saw her truck and she started to cry. Did I do the wrong thing? She hasn’t had a boyfriend for years — since my dad left.

— Worried and Confused, North Kildonan

Dear Confused: Whose team are you on? Your mom’s, right? So you didn’t have to save this guy’s behind when he was doing her wrong. If you kept his secret, he’d probably be causing your mom more pain and heartache down the road. She’s your mom, but also your friend. If your friend saw your sweetheart parked somewhere she wasn’t supposed to be at 3 a.m., would you want to be told? You definitely did the right thing.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My wife has her old group of four female friends coming for a 10-day visit this summer. Ten freakin’ days!

They came five years ago for a week and took over our house and cabin, and I was often told to get lost, by my wife and her smirking friends.

I suddenly got this idea of going to my hometown for a visit with my mom and dad and old friends. When I told my wife, she said, “No way! Your old girlfriend still lives there, and she’s divorced now. Go fishing with your buddies instead!”

To hell with fishing. I want to do my own idea. I’m definitely not staying in Winnipeg to be a drag on the hen party, which, if it’s like the last blowout, will include casinos, dancing at bars, drinking a lot of wine and going to our lake on the weekend. What do you think I should do? 

— Not Trusted, South St. Vital

Dear Not Trusted: If your wife can go to the bar and be out with the babes where there’s guys, you can certainly go home and stay away from touching up your ex-girlfriend, who probably doesn’t want anything to do with you anyway. Plus, everybody in a small town knows if you’re married or not, so you’ll be well-attended.

Wear your wedding ring and ask your wife to wear hers when she goes dancing, and then both go where you want freely. You may be married and owe your wife faithfulness, but she doesn’t own you, and she can’t decide where you are allowed to go, especially when she’s on a prolonged party herself.

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