Sexy Mexican redux not advisable

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m still feeling sexual fire for the guy I met recently on holidays in Mexico. I know he’s married, but he insisted his wife and he give each other freedom to do what they wish — an open marriage, with no kids to complicate things. Then they report back to each other on their adventures.

I went to Mexico on my own and I was alone. He was not being at all sneaky, and I guiltlessly spent my time with him, understanding I’d never see him again. I held my emotional feelings in check, but my sexual feelings were still burning when he called yesterday. He said he felt the same way and wanted to know if I’d meet him again in Mexico. 

I don’t know what to say, as I could fall hard for this guy. We have all the same interests, adore each other’s looks, and sex has never been better. Is it a danger to my emotional well-being to see him again? 

— Second Time’s the Harm? Tuxedo

Dear Harm: If you get seriously wound up with this guy, having knowingly entered into a sharing situation with his wife, you’re going to end up feeling messed-up emotionally. Don’t forget they report back to each other on their sexual adventures, so you’re kind of an experiment. 

It seems you have no partner in Manitoba either. If you get emotionally involved with this open-marriage lover on a second visit with him, how will you extricate your heart enough to meet someone you can have and hold here at home? 

It’s time to say, “Sorry, but no more,” if you’re going to avoid falling into that pit.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My girlfriend is a young 17 and I’m an old 15. People who find out, think the age difference is weird. But, I’m mature for my age — big, tall, with facial hair. 

She has been protected by her two parents, so not very grown-up. I am the son of a great single woman. I always have part-time jobs and have helped pay household bills on occasion. I am not a typical 15-year-old. 

But that doesn’t help the problem my girlfriend and I have. We go to different schools. She’s in Grade 12, and I’m not. Now she wants to introduce me to her friends and lie about my age. It seemed like a good idea at first, but now I’m wondering what happens after they find out. 

We are both fed up with dating in a hidden sort of way. Her mother thinks I’m older, but her dad looks at me in a funny way. I think he knows. 

His daughter and I love each other, and it isn’t just liking-plus-attraction. It’s deep feelings for both of us. Please help.

— Worried About People Knowing My Age, Winnipeg 

Dear Worried: Your size and maturity count, but not until people know you. It’d be better if your age came out on a second or third meeting with her friends, after they’ve already accepted you. 

There’s no need to announce your age and grade on first get-togethers with anyone. By the way, her dad may know, but if so, he seems to be giving you a chance, so try to relax around him and let your grown-up life experience show.

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