Visit from online pal could be big problem

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’ve been having an online love affair with a great guy in England and everything was just great until he announced he is flying here in April. I never thought I would meet him, so I hadn’t bothered to get rid of my Winnipeg sex buddy, who has become quite attached lately.

The sex with my local man is the best I’ve ever had, partly because there have been no strings and I didn’t care how I acted in front of him, which is very freeing. He suggested every Tuesday night and it works well for both of us busy people. I never told him about this guy in England because that was part of my private online love life.

My Englishman is such a sweetie pie and his accent on the phone is such a turn on. I do want to see him here and show him around, I just don’t want to hurt this other guy — or lose him.

I’m practical: what if the guy from England doesn’t turn out to be anything? Is there a way I can keep the local guy safely away for two weeks?

By the way, I’m 44, divorced, with no children. Please help! Both men are sweethearts. — Want to Keep Them Both, South Winnipeg

Dear Want to Keep Them Both: Before you panic over a juggling act, ask your local sex buddy if he’s seeing other people or has any other sweeties online. You might be surprised.

Anyone that talented sexually may have a woman or two for other days of the week as well, or even a wife. It’s suspicious he only sees you Tuesdays. And does the guy in England have someone at home? Have you ever asked him? He may just be coming here on spec to see if this fantasy woman he’s met is for real.

You may find you have less to worry about than you think with Mr. Winnipeg, but it might still be a good idea to suggest to your Englishman the joys of a fine hotel with maid service, a spa and entertainment.

He could be wonderful, but if it doesn’t work out, you’re not stuck with him in your home. Also, you won’t have to worry about a surprise visit from your jealous sex buddy.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m so angry at my girlfriend I’m thinking she’s going to have to move out. She let her messed up 26-year-old son move into the spare bedroom of my house.

She knew I would say no because he’s addicted to booze and drugs and isn’t working, so she didn’t ask me. I don’t want drug dealers coming around here and don’t want to hear his sorry-ass excuses for not working.

Last night, I told her he had to leave and our relationship is in jeopardy. She said, “He’s my boy and I can’t have him sleeping out on the streets. His girlfriend kicked him out.”

I love my girlfriend — she has a big heart and she loves me — but I can’t have this loser son of hers living in my house. — No Use For Her Son, Winnipeg

Dear No Use For Her Son: You love this woman and she loves you — a big win in this difficult world. The beloved son needs shelter from the winter weather this month, which offers the perfect time to put pressure on him to get clean and sober because he can’t partake at your house. But don’t be nasty about it.

Instead, try to dig out his forgotten career hopes and see if you can help this guy clean up and into the training program to become what he would like to be. It’s a lot easier to clean up if you have a goal and support.

This might be a good time for rehab if he’ll go. At least try helping her son and stop being so cold. If you help this woman’s son, you will win her deepest love, rather than losing her.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6 

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