Watching woman pray makes him feel sinful

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m burning up with lust for this woman at my church. I go every Sunday now, and my parents are so happy to see my new interest in religion. I only go because I love seeing this sexy young woman kneeling to pray. I told my parents I needed to sit in a different pew from them because I wanted to concentrate on my private talk with God. I always get into her pew, but quite a few seats over because the seating setup is rounded, so I can really drink her in. She’s everything I ever wanted in a woman. I haven’t talked to her yet, but I’m building up to that. How should I approach her?

— Pretend Religious Guy, Winnipeg

Dear Pretend Religious Guy: All you’ve experienced is the wrapping paper. You’ve never even spoken. Approach this young lady with a friendly smile, say hello and try to make some small talk about the weather and your plans for the summer. She may be cool to you, even cold, or she may be warm and friendly. She may not sound the way you imagined and she might not be your type at all once you get past how beautiful she looks.

Stop wasting your time looking and talk to her about anything. If it’s a match, it hardly matters how you open the conversation (with the exception of a stupid comment about how sexy she looks).

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My boyfriend has a new thing. I don’t like the same kind of hayseed music he does. I think his musical taste stinks, and when he tries to take me down a country road like the singers talk about, I tell him I’m not into a couple of hours of making out to that crap. He’s very hurt because I imagine he’s into the “starry sky, bare feet, drinking beer, bed in the back” country songs. How do I let him know I’m still into him — he has a big heart and is very intelligent — but I’m not into dirty blue jeans and cowboys hats?

— Not a Hayseed Girl, Winnipeg

Dear Not a Hayseed Girl: There are a lot of city types who love country and country-rock now. If you can’t stand the whole scene with him, let him find a lady who does. You’re clearly looking down your nose at him. It plainly shows through in your letter. This guy doesn’t need a woman who has to put up with his social lifestyle and music. Set him free to find the girl of his dreams because, even though he doesn’t fully realize it yet, you aren’t that woman.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: There’s a guy at our lake who seems to like me and my two little kids. He offers to fix things at our rickety cabin and I let him. I don’t have much extra money right now as my husband took off to Alberta with his old girlfriend, after five years and two children with me. My parents still have this little cabin and we are here for the summer while I get my life turned around. I need to start working by October when my savings run out. I know Mr. Fix-It would like to fix what I’m missing in a number of ways, but I’m not ready.

And I might never be ready for this guy, as I’m looking to raise my standards from blue-collar to white-collar with a profession. Does that sound mercenary? If you had as little money as I do now and you were getting help from your parents, you would wish you had gotten dumped by a rich guy. This guy is kind of cute and he likes me. Do you think a summer fling would be OK?

— Gold-Digging Single Mom, Lake Winnipeg

Dear Gold-Digging Single Mom: It depends how he feels about you and a summer fling. Maybe he’s more serious than that. Ask him boldly what he’s up to. Does he want to be pals? Does he want friends with benefits, because you’re not looking for a real relationship now? If he goes along with that, you may or may not want him at the end of the summer, but at least you warned him that your heart is not open.

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