Give younger man tips on how to meet women

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I met a sad-looking, cute, younger guy at a nightclub and I just wanted to make him smile. I finally got him smiling and laughing, and then he got really attached to me and followed me everywhere around the club all night. I got tired of him doing that, and took off out the back.

The next time I came back (the very next night of the long weekend) he was there again and right after me. I guess he is a sensitive, insecure young guy and I shouldn’t have played with his emotions.

I wonder if I need to talk to him about that night. I won’t change bars, as it is my favourite, where everybody I know goes. Help! — Too Friendly, Winnipeg

Dear Too Friendly: You don’t owe him a big explanation, but you might talk to him at least, like a friendly acquaintance, and suggest to him there are lot of fun-loving ladies in the club, and that you’re not looking for a boyfriend right now.

Explain in a light and friendly manner that you think he’s a cute guy, and he will do just fine if he approaches other women his own age in the club, but you’re just not the right one.

Tell him he’s a little young for you, but you would be glad to coach him a little. He might stomp off, but if he doesn’t, tell him it helps a lot if he smiles because he has an attractive look when he does.

He can even wave a few fingers at a girl who’s looking at him or wink, but he shouldn’t go running over and pounce. And certainly he should not follow a prospect around a club; he must be a little more subtle than that.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I love my big brother better than my dad, but I know something bad about his dishonest wife. She chases after other men online and I have seen little things left open on their computer when I babysit.

I have investigated and know she is messing around online, or worse.

If I tell him, it could blow the marriage wide apart and I won’t be welcome in their house anymore. I feel loyalty to my older brother though.

I won’t warn her first because she scares me. She claims to have psychic powers and can cast spells, from little ones like making people have a gut ache for a month, to way worse. It sounds stupid to me.

I know my brother has messed around on her, too.

I am a quiet person and tend to overhear things. What should I do? The sky might be falling if I tell on her to him. — Chicken Little, Downtown

Dear Chicken Little: Since both of these people mess around on each other, you don’t owe it to either one to spill the beans. Just stay off their computer and use your phone if you are over there.

They are a complicated couple, and for all you know they have an open-marriage agreement that pertains to messing around online.

You want to be part of that family and see the nieces and nephews a lot. It’s usually better for kids to have two parents under the roof, even if they have an unconventional loosey-goosey marriage (as long as the kids don’t know about that).

If somehow you know for sure she’s having a real affair and it’s not part of their agreement, you may need to tell your brother. You will know that by the pounding in your heart and the obsession in your brain: “I have to tell my brother.”

If they break up you will still see your nieces or nephews when they are with their dad. These things happen and they can often be worked out.

Here’s hoping he finds a way to find proof, so it doesn’t all point at you telling him. Let me know how it goes.

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