Loud summer lovers have neighbour moaning

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: It’s so hot out that the people in my apartment block are leaving their windows open. I was awakened twice last night by people who clearly couldn’t sleep and were making a lot of personal noise that should be muffled behind closed windows! I’m thinking of putting notes under these people’s doors to “keep it down!” but my husband says I’ll just make enemies. What else can I do?

— Frustrated By Loud Lovers, Crescentwood

Dear Frustrated: Get a small air conditioner for your own bedroom window, stay cool, and enjoy the relaxing white noise instead of lovers’ noises! If you don’t need A.C., a fan turned up high makes enough noise to drown out loud traffic, let alone a few pairs of lovers in the throes of passion on a hot summer night. Relax! Love and let love.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a divorced woman in my late 30s. I met a man on holiday at the beach and we spent a whole two weeks together meeting at a certain rock by the beach — and ending up in the dunes on a sky-blue blanket.

It was the best holiday of my life — the only holiday I’ve ever been brave enough to take by myself. Now this lovely man has gone back to his hometown and we have this glorious memory.

He and his wife are going through a divorce, and my divorce is long behind me. I don’t know what tomorrow will bring, but I don’t regret one day (or night!) of those two weeks. But — and this is a big but — I made the mistake of telling one of my best longtime-single friends, and she had the nerve to be disapproving and uppity, saying stuff like “How do you know he was telling the truth? Maybe he was just using you!”

She hasn’t had a husband or a lover in almost 10 years. I didn’t know what to say to her. She phoned yesterday and was nasty and trying to destroy my beautiful memories. She keeps calling and I let it ring. What should I say to her?

— Speechless, Windsor Park

Dear Speechless: When you get something very special that another friend doesn’t have, jealousy can be the result. Next time you speak to this woman, say quietly, “I think you’re jealous, and I won’t listen to any more of your negativity.” If she keeps it up, say, “Bye-bye, I’ll talk to you later, but not if you’re going to try to spoil my experiences.”

You may not hear from her again. You may have to find a replacement buddy who is enjoying her love life and not feeling angry and jealous like this woman. Other people often judge you by the friends you have. This bitter one may be keeping other happier people away from you.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Down near my house there’s an ancient garbage dumping place, and people are always around there with their with metal detectors. I think it’s crass to disturb the grown-over garbage pile of eras gone by. Yesterday, I was so disgusted I yelled at some people to get away from there, and they told me to “stick it.” Who is right? I think I am!

— Disgusted By Greedy People, Winnipeg Outskirts

Dear Disgusted: What is your real worry here? If this is not an old cemetery, and it’s just an old dump, you can’t really be worried about disturbing sacred ground. If the area is on your land, you are in the right to tell people to leave. If it’s not, call the municipality and let someone else fight with these people.

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