You don’t always have to direct the role-playing

Opinion

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This article was published 04/11/2020 (1806 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: Now that we have COVID to contend with, I’m focusing on my safe-but-dull husband much more. He’s a good guy and very big and strong, but until this fall it has been pretty dull sexually. But he’s what I got. What’s happening is I’m investing in a lot more toys and board games from sex shops.

He’s warming to it, and getting into role-playing games with me now.

Last night when I was already in bed with the lights out, he went out to the barn and returned 15 minutes later on one of the horses, dressed in black with a mask and cowboy hat. He told me to say nothing, dressed me, put me in my fur coat and carried me out over his shoulder to the big horse for a wild ride and then home — for another kind of wild ride! I loved it, but I’m not sure where that leaves me, in terms of power. Did I just give mine up?

— Dominant Woman, Winnipeg Outskirts

 

Dear Dominant Woman: You may be alternating power in games from now on, but so what? It seems you get a kick out of being swept away by a dashing masked man once in a while. So enjoy it!

Then come up with exciting scenes where you dominate. Next time someone asks you what’s new at the ranch, your best answer is a wink and “You’ll never believe it, and I’ll never tell!” Have fun!

 

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I think Determined to See Him — the divorced woman who wants to see her small-town ex-boyfriend again this Christmas — should “snail mail” a note to him, not just show up at his door, as you suggested, with a funny “hello” line.

She could say she’s no longer married, and would very much like to talk to him, on the phone or in person — whichever he is comfortable with. She can include her phone number, mailing address and email address. She should also tell him she’s been transferred back to Winnipeg and will be in their small town at Christmas.

I think this might be a better way to try to make contact with a former boyfriend, or girlfriend, as I think I would likely respond more positively if I received a note in the mail.

— Thank you, S.M.

 

Dear S.M.: This guy has managed to avoid this ex every other time she’s been back home. It’s highly unlikely he’s going to just invite her over for tea — snail mail or not — because she broke his heart long ago. The whole town probably knows it, and he may be proud or totally uninterested, having known different women in between.

True, he has never married, and she’s single. But I doubt he’d be thinking he’d take another turn at bat just because she’s free again. That’s why she has to be bold and seek him out in a little ambush on his doorstep. It may be her only hope. He may send her packing, or he might let her in. Maybe it will go well, now they are all grown up.

Miracles can happen at Christmas, but sometimes they need a little push!

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.