Sisterly love triangle requires parental intervention

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m shocked to find out my sister has been seeing my ex-boyfriend.

Even though I was the one who dumped him, I feel she has a lot of nerve picking him up and bringing him back into the family.

The other night she literally brought him back home for dinner. I couldn’t stand looking at him right across the table, so I got up and stomped out the door.

Also, I had to wonder how long they had been getting together behind my back.

I finally asked her and she side-stepped the question by saying, “You dumped him. It’s none of your business what he does now.”

Is that true? Isn’t there some kind of etiquette for this type of situation?

— Sick of Their Faces, River Heights

Dear Sick: This new romance involving your younger sister and your ex is a definite recipe for disaster. Sis is rubbing this unpopular new relationship of hers in your face, and it sounds like she’s enjoying doing it.

Could your ex-boyfriend have put her up to it? Or is your younger sister just getting back at you for something? How long was she secretly in love with your guy?

First, talk to your mom and dad about handling the situation — with them dealing with your sister as you two siblings are ready to blow up your own relationship if left to fight it out.

If your parents are already unhappy about this fellow being back in the house, they might be ready to help work things out. If that’s not possible, it’s time for a relationship counsellor to work with you and your sis.

Be aware: a war between sisters can last a lifetime and it’s a very sad outcome for the whole family.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My mother is a lovable, wacky person. She loves karaoke, telling jokes and pulling pranks on people — like helping us with April Fool’s jokes on our dad. I was spoiled by my crazy but fun life at home while growing up.

I’ve been dating for years now and girlfriends seemed to have liked me a lot, but I find them all boring after a while.

Where do I go to find women who are attractive, but more lively, full of pranks and just plain fun? I don’t want to spend every night inside watching TV.

— Bored With Regular Women, Whyte Ridge

Dear Bored: You’ve grown out of the young crowd you’ve been hanging with and thinking seriously about the new type of group you want to be part of as a young adult — one more like the rollicking home scene of your youth.

The good news for you is you don’t have to leave meeting people to luck. Start adding more new friends and acquaintances to your gang who are creative and humorous. Consider doing that by getting involved in the production of comedy and theatre productions, big or small, or even events such as the fringe festival.

You could also get a group together to go out regularly to a comedy club or bars with open-mic standup or music.

Along with the people you bring, there will be plenty of fun folks there to rub shoulders with and get to know better. Once you start meeting lively, fun and creative people, there are bound to be exciting new women of the type that will attract you.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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