Co-worker needs to know you are not bi-curious

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I am a woman who’s kind of butch-looking. This other woman at work likes me romantically, but pretends to be a friend. She arrived at my garage door late last night and put a Christmas tree there. I know she heard me saying at work I couldn’t afford one this year. The light was off, but I was in the kitchen and saw her through the window and ducked down What am I to do with her? She is the nicest person, but I’m not lesbian like her. I’ve seen her with old girlfriends.

I’m not even bi-curious. What should I do about her advances and about accepting the tree, because I am going to accept it for my kid’s sake, yet I don’t want to be acting closer to her because I feel guilty about the Christmas tree.

— Not Her Girlfriend, North End

Dear Not Her Girlfriend: Acknowledge the kindness of the tree gift and say how much your child will love it. In another conversation a few days later, thank her for her friendship and generosity, but you want to make sure she knows it can only be a friendship. If she asks why, and she might, say “Well, I may look lesbian in my dress, but I’m not.” Then change the subject and let it go.

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