Young free spirit wasn’t the woman for you

Opinion

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This article was published 06/01/2016 (3559 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My heart is breaking because I got dumped on Boxing Day when I proposed. Luckily, my girlfriend gave the ring back immediately. It cost me a lot. She said, “I thought you just enjoyed spending time with me. I have no desire to marry anybody until I’m at least 30.” She’s 21 and already has one degree and a job in her field. What more does she need? I’m 30 and I could be responsible financially for both of us if we had kids. Help! — Broken Man, Winnipeg

Dear Broken: Give up now. She needs to be in “forever love” mode. She isn’t feeling it. You are ready to settle down, so you need to find someone who is at the same stage. Want a young wife? There are a fair number of 21-year-olds at the marriage stage right now, especially those who went through a broken marriage with their parents and now dream of a white picket fence, a solid husband and a father for their kids, while they stay home.

Look, you’re nine years older than this young woman who rejected you, and several stages past her. That’s too much. It’s time to start dreaming of women who are youthful-looking, but grown-up and looking for a real, long-lasting mate — not just company and a sex partner. This was not as big a loss for you as you think. She was never the right one.

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Miss Lonelyhearts
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