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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I taught my 26-year-old wife how to ski last year and now she’s spending a lot of money planning ski getaways for us. I was OK with the trips to the Rockies within Canada, but now she has brochures out for a trip to the Alps in Europe. “We don’t have any kids, so we can afford it,” she says. I am 32 and have a savings account for travelling. My passion is to see the world.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I taught my 26-year-old wife how to ski last year and now she’s spending a lot of money planning ski getaways for us. I was OK with the trips to the Rockies within Canada, but now she has brochures out for a trip to the Alps in Europe. “We don’t have any kids, so we can afford it,” she says. I am 32 and have a savings account for travelling. My passion is to see the world.

The no-kids thing is a big issue because I really don’t want any and she wants a big family. We never discussed this before the wedding. She just took it for granted everybody from a big Catholic family like mine also wanted a bunch of rug rats. She comes from a happy Protestant family of five. The members of my family are barely on speaking terms. I think she’s trying to spend all of our money out of spite, since she now refers to us at parties, when she’s had a little rum, as DINKS (Double Income, No Kids). What do you think about our chances?

— Not a Daddy, Windsor Park

 

Dear Not a Daddy: It’s sad when two people who want to get married don’t talk about having children. Your charming presence is too big a price to pay for missing out on a family, if that’s what this young woman dreams of. Skiing and spending your travel account on trips is not going to substitute for babies for long. You need a free-wheeling travelling kind of lady who’s not keen on kids and just wants a romantic marriage. You and your wife need to have a serious talk right now about whether you should stay together. If you must part, leave her now, while she’s still young enough to change husbands, get married and have her babies.

If you can’t bare to lose her, you’ll need to get counselling and compromise on a small family. Good luck!

 

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