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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m married to a woman who is a good cook, but a lousy mother to our teenage kids. I would like to leave her, but I am the kids “mom” and could never abandon them. I love those kids. They are the best part of my life.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m married to a woman who is a good cook, but a lousy mother to our teenage kids. I would like to leave her, but I am the kids “mom” and could never abandon them. I love those kids. They are the best part of my life.

To her, the kids are annoying boarders who will move out of her big house one day. Her favourite phrase is “when the kids are gone.” She does endless loads of laundry and cooking. There is no emotion needed for that.

I do all the nurturing. I help with homework, have long talks about school and their romances and big discussions about life. I drive them everywhere. Their mother couldn’t tell you what they’re taking at school, never goes to see their sports games or concerts. She is so cold! My question is: when can I leave my wife and not ruin the kids’ lives? The youngest is 15. I’ll never go for marriage counselling. I detest their mother and want out.

— Mr. Mom, South End

 

Dear Mr. Mom: It helps to know what day you’re getting out of “jail” when that’s how you see your marriage. Leaving could happen three years from now, as the youngest will be 18. It’s not all that long, once you make the decision. In your case, it would be good to get the kids off to post-secondary school and beginning their adult lives before you break up the home. I imagine you have university/college money for them and are encouraging them to study hard to get into the careers they want. You should also have a three-year plan for yourself, including a smaller house that has three bedrooms in case a few kids want to live with you. See a domestic lawyer and an accountant for advice now.

By the way, until you split up, your at-home wife is worth more than $50,000 a year as live-in house cleaner, cook and valet with three kids.

 

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