Don’t take blame for boyfriend’s accident

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My boyfriend is always borrowing my car. He managed to drive it into a snowbank on a curve, and now it’s all dented and the handle is wrenched up. The trouble is he doesn’t have a driver’s licence, and he wants me to say I did it so I can get it fixed — but then I would be at fault, I furiously pointed out. I think he should get a mechanic friend he knows to fix it and pay for it all himself. What do you think about this?

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My boyfriend is always borrowing my car. He managed to drive it into a snowbank on a curve, and now it’s all dented and the handle is wrenched up. The trouble is he doesn’t have a driver’s licence, and he wants me to say I did it so I can get it fixed — but then I would be at fault, I furiously pointed out. I think he should get a mechanic friend he knows to fix it and pay for it all himself. What do you think about this?

— Not My Fault! Winnipeg

 

Dear Not My Fault: You’re almost as much to blame as he is. Lending your car to a guy who has no licence is wrong in so many ways. The illegality of him driving around is major. Why doesn’t he have a licence? Did he ever have one, or did he have one and lose it for past traffic offences? The danger of having him on the road — to you, himself and other people — is another shocking issue. The nerve of his asking you, is a whole other issue.

Given the situation, he’s the person who should be getting your dent banged out and is responsible for whatever else needs fixing for it to be road-worthy with only you as the driver. Am I right in guessing he doesn’t have a job, or if he does, it doesn’t pay much? If that’s the case, split the cost of fixing it with him so you can drive again.

No matter what you do, never lend your vehicle to a unlicensed driver, even if you happen to be sleeping with him. It’s really time to dump this jerk, but try to get the repair money out of him first.

 

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