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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: There's a lesbian woman on the fringes of my life, a friend of a friend whom I like. I have finagled things to meet up with her more often as part of a charity I work for. Now I am seeing her a lot and don't know what to say to her beyond stuff about the charity. I am not totally lesbian like she is, but I am curious.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: There’s a lesbian woman on the fringes of my life, a friend of a friend whom I like. I have finagled things to meet up with her more often as part of a charity I work for. Now I am seeing her a lot and don’t know what to say to her beyond stuff about the charity. I am not totally lesbian like she is, but I am curious.

I don’t want her to feel like an experiment for me, though. I like her for the wonderful person she is. I’m most often attracted to men that are kind of like she is, sort of tough and strong. The last time I saw her, I was so attracted to her I had to go home early from a charity gathering we were at.

I wanted to tell her that I wanted to be with her all alone, but I chickened out. My friend who knows her is straight, and I don’t want to horn in on their friendship, but I can’t stop thinking of this woman. She just became single again and has been away from her former partner for only three months. Is it too soon?

— Scared to Make a Move, Winnipeg

 

Dear Scared to Make a Move: You’re both just people. When people break up, male or female, they need a little time to get over the hurt, to mellow out and relax. Find out from your mutual friend what stage she think this woman is in. and tell her you have a little crush. If she’s OK with you getting together, she will blab to this woman you like. That’s what people do. They like facilitating a match unless there’s some jealousy in the mix.

 

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6

 

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