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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have long ugly toenalls and don't pay much attention to that end of my body. Unfortunately, I scratched my girlfriend's calf when we were in bed playing and she screamed out in pain. She's bigger than I am, and she threw me right out of the bed onto the floor, which really hurt my back. Then she threw my clothes at me and said, "Get out of my sight!" I could hear her bawling as I was leaving.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have long ugly toenalls and don’t pay much attention to that end of my body. Unfortunately, I scratched my girlfriend’s calf when we were in bed playing and she screamed out in pain. She’s bigger than I am, and she threw me right out of the bed onto the floor, which really hurt my back. Then she threw my clothes at me and said, “Get out of my sight!” I could hear her bawling as I was leaving.

She’s only answered the phone once since, and that was to say, ” I have warned you about your toenails and other cleanliness things and you never listen. Now I’m going to have a scar on my leg. Get out of my life, you big stinking hairy ape!” She can’t possibly mean that. I love her and would do anything for her and she knows that. She was just mad. I was going to propose this summer. Please help.

— Sorry Boyfriend, Transcona

 

Dear Sorry Boyfriend: No, she isn’t kidding and now you’ve blown it. Doing “anything for her” is nothing special. That’s what platonic male friends who are not her lover want to do. This may come as news to you, but many women have several hopeful men, single and married, who have little crushes on them and would be happy to clip their sharp nails for her, rotate her tires, till the garden and help her bathe the dog.

But, they haven’t been invited into her bed. You were, and you took her for granted after being warned. You need to know that a man who wants to be married to a woman has to treat her like a treasure every day for the rest of her life, not a hunting buddy. You have to cut nails on hands and feet out of her sight, smell good, use deodorant and expel gas in another room. Most importantly, you have to listen to her and respect her requests with regards to hygiene.

 

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