Add some springs to swing

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My younger second wife almost broke my leg having sex in the swing the other night. She was a gymnast for years and has an amazing little body, so it’s not surprising she’s into all kinds of acrobatics in the bedroom. I like her moves when she does them for me, but a few weeks ago she came home with a sex swing which we had installed by her male buddy, to my embarrassment. She got some scenes out of a book about it and we tried them, and it was ridiculous.

On top of that, I lost my ability to maintain what was needed for the sex end of things while trying to concentrate on the swing action. Last night she wanted to try again. I was a sport about it. She had some crazy idea and we tried it and my leg got hurt. I don’t want anymore of this. What happened to good old-fashioned sex? Works for me.

— Her Old Husband, Tuxedo

Dear Her Old Husband: Good old-fashioned sex went out the window when you chose your second wife, the gymnast. She wants physical adventure and variety, and is determined to take on the responsibility for introducing you to experiments.

So did you two follow the instructions, or was your wife going rogue when you got hurt? Being older, take on the job of reading the safety instructions. Secure mounting is important to avoid injury to the suspended partner from an unexpected fall. You didn’t say what happened to your leg exactly, but installing springs (they may be supplied in the kit) reduces physical shock when bouncing in the swing.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I love my husband dearly and he is wonderful in almost every way. We are a middle-aged/older couple who both work humble jobs and have no children at home. Only one area brings me concern: he is an older man who feels that one of a woman’s roles is to be the primary caretaker of the home. He is very well-respected by many, and perhaps feels he is above housework.

While he does most of the outside work, and occasionally inside the house, the imbalance (in hours) between his responsibilities and mine seems to be unfair. Many evenings, especially during the winter, he lays on the couch, naps and watches TV for the whole evening. While his evenings are leisurely, mine are filled with cooking and housework and preparing for the next day. If he was busy doing bona-fide work, inside or outside, at the same time, I wouldn’t mind, but it bothers me when he does leisurely things for hours while I’m doing jobs that need to be done. Can two old dogs learn new tricks?

— Sad Dog, Manitoba

Dear Sad Dog: First, demonstrate clearly there’s been a change in your life together. Go out and get busier outside the house at fun clubs or activities at least two nights a week. Then cheerfully advise him that because of the change, you are no longer able to carry the load of doing most of the housework. Men like lists to make things concrete, so write a list of what needs to be done at home for a seven-day period and your suggestions for division of labour.

A guy who is on the couch is a good candidate for taking on the laundry two nights a week, including changing the bedding. He can also unload the dishwasher, put dishes away and take out the garbage in the morning. He could also be responsible for two meals a week, whether they are recipes he makes or take-out from a restaurant. It’s a couple of meals you don’t have to worry about on the evenings you are out and busy with your new activities.

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