Boss wants promotion from superior to lover

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m in love with two wonderful men. I simply adore my boss who wants to become my lover. I’m also in love with my husband. I don’t love my husband any less, I just feel like my heart has expanded to love two men. My boss is so brilliant, witty and fun to be around. My guy at home is a sweetie, a great dad and quite good in bed. My boss has a wife and they have a sex life, though I’m guessing it’s not that exciting or frequent based on some of the cracks he’s made.

Everything was going along fine with this harmless flirtation until we were working alone together late one night last week, and I literally bumped into him in a doorway. Our bodies slid against each other and then our lips found each other and we kissed because we couldn’t help it.

That kiss was off the charts! We ended up on the loveseat in his office until I finally ripped apart from him and ran to the bathroom, where I burst into tears of frustration. Now I know it’s him I’m truly in love with. My boss hasn’t said a word about it since, just looks at me with his hot, dark eyes. Now what? I can’t quit my job. — In Big Trouble, Winnipeg

Dear In Big Trouble: Imagine your husband announced he found his love could expand to contain a new woman he loves, as well as you. Then, imagine your boss’ wife telling him she found another love interest, but she still cares for him. Would he still be chasing you at work? How would you be feeling then? Sexy? Happy to lose both intact families and make a life together, with or without your kids? It’s highly unlikely. This titillating office flirtation thrived on having the whole cake at home, plus the icing on top at work. You say you can’t leave work for another job? Then you can’t leave the big problem behind.

And do you think other people at work don’t see the steam between you? Dream on. Also, lots of people will know your boss’ wife. How long will it be until she knows you two are getting into it at work?

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My boyfriend loves Christmas oranges so much he makes himself sick on them every year. I don’t know why he can’t leave them alone. The rest of the year he doesn’t care. He also makes himself sick on chocolate-covered cherries. He’ll eat both these things until he’s in the bathroom throwing up. What is the matter with his head? Once the boxes of oranges are out of the stores, his eating issues end, even though you can still buy chocolate-covered cherries all year. Does he have a nervous anxiety problem? Why does he get these cravings every year? I’m no shrink, but I think there’s something going on there from his past. — Freaked-Out Girlfriend, Downtown

Dear Freaked-Out Girlfriend: It could take some counselling and perhaps hypnosis to get him to remember when this all started. Could it be he was denied these special treats at Christmas when he was a child and doesn’t remember it? It’s impossible for you and me to know. Encourage him to go to talk to a psychologist who could take him back to the place where he got fixated on having these treats.

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