New lake friendship an affair in the making

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My husband hurt me for the last time with his remarks about my “fat jiggly butt” in my yellow bikini. It was the last straw with me and him. He is always mean to me when no one is around and his remarks are usually about my looks.

The kids are away working summer jobs this year. I work in the school system and will be at the lake for two whole months, all alone on the weekdays. At first, I was going to commute back and forth to spend time with my husband and keep an eye on him so he doesn’t stray again, but now I don’t care if he strays or not.

There’s a man nearby and he keeps dropping over on different excuses. He doesn’t seem to mind my fat butt. In fact, he commented that he likes women with curves. I got plenty of curves, for sure. That comment earned him a dinner one night and we’ve been great friends since. I’m thinking it’s a waste of time to commute anyway. Besides, I like lake projects and all my supplies are out here now.

My husband hasn’t always been faithful but his cheating seemed to have stopped after I caught him years ago when the kids were young and I was “too busy for him.” I left him for three weeks with the children. They were hating him and crying for Mom to come back. I finally did. A few months later, when he thought he was safe, the mean comments about my body started, as if my lack of skinniness caused him to stray.

Back to my lake situation. I’m thinking: what’s a harmless little flirtation if there’s no sex? I could do with an ego boost and this guy sure makes me feel pretty.

— Just Flirting, Lake Country

Dear Flirting: You wouldn’t be writing me if it were a harmless little thing. You’re furious and looking for revenge. You very quickly made your decision to be a permanent lake resident after this guy said he liked your curves. In fact, that earned him a little dinner-for-two with you.

Does he have a girlfriend or wife in the picture, or have you not asked? A lot of affairs begin with people not asking those important questions. A missing wedding ring means nothing. So why not look down the road? Do you want to have a lake affair and perhaps lose your mean-mouthed husband? Or, would you prefer to have a look-the-other-way marriage where he’s welcome to stray in the city and you have five days a week to do the same at the lake? Your marriage may be near the end of its run, but it’d be better, especially since you have kids together, not to be too mean to each other.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Is there a way to tell your husband you’re bisexual when you don’t have a female partner? I know he’d like a threesome with a second hetero woman in the bed. That isn’t happening — not my dream, just his idea!

— Wanting a Woman Who Wants Me, Brandon

Dear Wanting A Woman: You could show him this column, as your situation is well stated. Maybe he’d be fine with a bisexual woman in the threesome, though she might be more interested in you. At least you have an equal chance at getting her attention. A straight woman might be competing for your husband’s attention and not be the least bit interested in you.

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