Calling card handy for chance meetings

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I met a guy at a Goldeyes game who was so funny and entertaining I wanted to see him again. But I did nothing. That was it — or was it?

“You snooze, you lose,” so they say, and I didn’t give him any way to reach me or ask him for his contact information.

This guy was with another guy. At one point, his buddy teased him saying, “You single guys are all the same,” so I knew he was free. I know their first names and where they both work — and even the department, from our conversation — but I’m feeling shy to call.

What do you suggest?  — Blew My Chance? St. Boniface

Dear Blew: You should have called up the one you liked within two or three days and told him how much you enjoyed your conversation at the game. Then you could have suggested meeting for a drink.  

If you think it’s too late to call this guy now, consider this: I once met a guy who had a social card — not a business card, though it’s the same size — just a fun card with his name and number that read “For coffee and conversation, call me.”

Why not make one for yourself? It can be just your first name in fancy script and your email, if you prefer. Or, you can scribble on the back of your business card if you’re OK giving that much information away. Everybody should have a little card of some kind; looking for a paper and a pen, and scribbling a note gets too personal, too fast.

When you hand your card to the person, smile and say, “You’re fun and interesting. I’d like to see you again.” Then turn and go. Don’t stand there, like you’re waiting for the guy to ask you for a date. He may be in shock for a minute.

If he calls you back and really wants to keep talking, suggest a place for a drink or lunch in a few days. It’s worth a try. Don’t lose out on what could be a winning relationship.  

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My young ex-wife has been trying to get back together with me and it is giving me the willies. She was deceptively nice when I met her — great company and fun in bed — and that’s why I married her. But that’s just the face she shows to the outside world or to a new love.

When you commit to her, she’s actually lazy and acts kind of depressed at home. When she’s out of the house, she’s fine — outgoing, friendly, happy, sexy and tempting. Sex is the only thing we got right together.

At home, she would lie down and complain she wasn’t feeling well and want me to run and fetch for her. Her own mother does this with her husband and grown kids. 

I got away from this woman at no small cost! I don’t want that little witch back, though she’s charming on the phone and a heck of a great date.

How do I get her to leave me alone? I really don’t want anything more to do with her, but I have no one else and I get really frustrated sexually. Any advice would be appreciated. —Lonely and Tempted, Westwood

Dear Lonely and Tempted: Who are you trying to kid? You’re about to enter the ring for Round 2.

Loneliness is a dangerous thing and sex with your ex is dangling right before you. You’re weakening, buddy. Maybe you need to phone-block your ex and get busy looking for a new woman. Otherwise, you’re going to be in a certain young witch’s clutches by Halloween.

You might consider joining a singles activities club like Adventures for Successful Singles, which boasts 50 sports and arts and social activities opportunities a month.

Or check out Meetup Winnipeg online, which offers many activities. If you don’t do something soon, you’re going to slowly drift back to your ex’s bed — and that could be a big waste of your time and money.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave. Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6

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