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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I want to be in the Winnipeg Pride Parade on Sunday, but I’m not out of the closet yet. My friends also want me to be with them, but they are baring their faces.

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I want to be in the Winnipeg Pride Parade on Sunday, but I’m not out of the closet yet. My friends also want me to be with them, but they are baring their faces.

They’re not putting pressure on me, but I feel pressure on myself because of my religious family and many friends and co-workers who don’t know.

What should I do?

— Big Chicken, Winnipeg

Dear Big: Nobody says your face must be fully exposed at the Pride Parade. Wear a costume with a mask and walk or ride on a float with your friends, simply because you want to. The time has come for you, and that’s as far as you need to go.

If you feel more comfortable in another year, you can expose your identity, if you wish. This year, you are participating in warm solidarity with your friends, even though you’re not totally ready to come out to the public.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m writing about My Confidence Blown, the newly single man who is afraid he’s impotent. (Miss L: a psychiatrist thought it was due to his wife’s cheating, but he was impotent again on his first date with a new woman. Miss L. suggested he build a necking and petting and emotional relationship before trying to have sex.)

As a family doctor, I frequently deal with impotence issues with younger men. In my experience, a lot of these psychogenic issues can be helped with judicious use of medications such as Viagra or Cialis.

After a few successful outcomes, their confidence is back and the medications are no longer needed.

I’d suggest Confidence Blown contact his doctor for help.

— Regards, Winnipeg MD

Dear Winnipeg MD: Thanks for writing with that practical suggestion. If his overall health checks out in favour of using one of these medications, this might just work for Confidence Blown. We can hope he writes back and tells us how it worked for him. 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I had to work Friday night, but drove out later to meet my new boyfriend at his cabin. It was very cold. I insisted on piling on the blankets. He’s a hot person generally, and he kept kicking them off. We finally struck a happy medium and were able to comfortably make love. Afterwards, when I was no longer wrapped in his arms, I was shivering again and wanted to pile the blankets back on.

To my surprise, he suggested I go sleep in another room — he kicked me right out! After an hour of shivering and crying alone next door, I got in my car and drove home with the heat on.

I have told him I don’t want to see him anymore and he says I’m “overreacting.” What do you think?

— Disenchanted With Romeo, St. Vital

Dear Disenchanted: This man is no Romeo. In fact, he has strong “jerk” tendencies. No, you did not overreact; that’s a convenient accusation from a guilty party.

After he got the sex action he wanted, he kicked you out of the warmer bedroom to fend for yourself in another cold room. 

The least he could have done was leave you in his room with blankets still warmed by your bodies, tucked you in tightly, kissed you good night with some sweet words and gone to sleep in the other cold bedroom by himself. That’s closer to Romeo behaviour by a few inches.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

 

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